No you arent being unreasonable at all.  Your time with your husband and children is really important to keep your family happy and together it would be great if your husband came to realise that too but if you have a fairly good relationship with your in laws maybe try and discuss it with them explaining the way you feel sometimes it can be hard for them to see that you need your space but im sure with time and perseverence it ll work out. 

I used to be really close to my inlaws and enjoyed spending time with them. After I had kids they began to over crowd me and I kept taking to my husband telling him to do something. He did nothing (basically telling me to get over it) then oneday I just let go and went off at them and I haven't talked to them in 6 months.

I now have no interest in seeing them at all. I do feel bad for my husband and my kids though.

My point is that you do need to do something now before you reach the point of no return.

Hi anon, no it is not wrong to want to spend some alone time with your family. Why don't you plan some outings just for your selves, perhaps a nice drive along the coast, going to the markets, museum, pic-nic in the park.

I am sure that after a few alone dates, hubby may want to make it a one weekend a month affair.

Take care.

 It is nice that you spend time with the in-laws but it sounds like you live in their pockets so to speak, this is not fair on your own family and spending quality time together as a family unit...which normally happens on a weekend for most families. So I don't feel your being unreasonable in the least.

Why not try talking to hubby suggesting it would be nice to just spend the day together as a family...maybe organise a family picnic or BBQ somewhere, at a park or beside a lake 

You deserve a medal for being so welcoming there is nothing wrong with spending time with your inlaws but all weekend every week is way too much,and just popping over all the time that's being extremly selfish on their part. You have every right to feel like you are being invaded and I think you will have to talk to hubby and let him no how you feel this would make me miserable. Like another member said don't beat yourself up over this you should feel comfortable in your own home and you are doing nothing wrong having these concerns.

NO!! You are not being selfish at all! It's not fair on you or your family if all the quality time is spent with the in-laws and you never get a chance to bond with everyone all together or for your hubby to have a chance to bond with your kids. My in-laws were EXACTLY the same and they expected to see my son every weekend, every Saturday and Sunday. But what made it worse was we weren't allowed to be there with them and it had to be at their house only!! So we never got to see our own son and hubby was annoyed at this because he too works Mon-Fri and only ever got to see Jesse for a couple of hours before Jesse's bedtime. Not to mention my parents were missing out on seeing Jesse as my in-laws always had him. Anyway to cut a long story short we tried numerous times explaining to the in-laws that we needed quality time as a family but they were welcome over our house anytime. It ended nastily and now they have cut us out of their family because they didn't get to do things THEIR way!! So I'm hoping your in-laws are a lot nicer and a lot more understanding. Just make sure you explain things properly so there is no room for confusion as my in-laws said they were confused and thought we meant they were never allowed to see Jesse again - but I think it's just them and they were being unreasonable. So good luck and hopefully things work out for you!!

Stop beating yourself up!  NO, wanting a weekend or two every few weeks to yourself with just your husband and kids is NOT unreasonable.  In my opinion, it's quite normal.  Weekends are your personal time with your husband when he isn't coming and going from work, and you need time for yourselves to maintain relationship closeness too.  Weekends are also very important for families to socialise with other families, and this in turn teaches children about friendship in ways they don't even realise.

I would try talking to him and saying "I love your parents, but you and our kids are my paramount priority, and I feel we aren't getting enough family time.  How about if your parents visit either Saturday OR Sunday, or they visit once a fortnight?"

Also, have you tried letting them take the kids for a weekend at their place every 3-4 weeks so you and hubby can have some grown up time wherein you can go away for a night or just out to dinner and a movie?