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jessid
jessid | December 2008

Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

I have a sixteen month old son who for the last two months has has completely ignored everything I say. He's been running back and forward doing all of the things he isn't allowed to do, like pulling on curtains, then straight to the powerpoint, then climbing on the tv unit. Whenever I ask him to get down or say NO, he just looks at me, smiles, and continues on. The little cheeky grin is quite cute, but what he's doing poses a danger to him. At first I figured it was his way of getting attention, but even if I take him off to play with his toys, he runs straight back to where I had just taken him away from.

Does anyone have some wisdom on this matter, or is my beautiful little boy becoming a beautiful NAUGHTY little boy?



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Arna
December 2008 | Arna
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

He certainly sounds like my 19 month old! lol.  The saying is'worrying ones, terrible two;s and troublesome threes' because they do start this behaviour very young, it is just over time you get worn down by it more easily so you notice it more.

Ignore the fact his cheeky grin is cute.  If he sees that you think so, he is not going to behave how you want him to at all!  That means you will have to hide it from your eyes too! (a true smile is reflceted in the eyes, and kids instinctively know it).

All you can really do is go with the flow, tackle each challenge as it arises and try not to give the naughty behaviours too much attention.  Its not easy, I know, but it only gets worse if you don't stop it now.



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renee78
December 2008 | renee78
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

my daughter has just turned 6

i feel shes still in her terrible 2's

it gets much worse before it gets better

our little saying to her is 'drama queen'...



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cassaustin
December 2008 | cassaustin
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

I am right there with you hunni!! I have a 16 month old too, who is testing my limits something shocking at the moment. Unfortunately i have no idea how to deal with it. All i do is walk away when he trows tantrums and if he is whinging for more than i can deal with (usually about half an hour non-stop) then i will put him in time out to calm down. When he stops whinging there, i will go and get him and tell him that i love him, but he cant scream and yell just to get what he wants.

As for climbing on things, i dont really have anything that he can climb on, and the toys thing i completely get!! Austin wont play with any of his toys anymore. God knows why we spend hundreds of $ on them???

I hope your little man settles down soon. I know how frustrating it is. Cass xoxox



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Philosopher13
December 2008 | Philosopher13
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

 Oh sweetie! I feel for you. My eldest started his terrible twos at the age of 18 months and didn't stop until he was almost 4! Things have gotten so much better. The only thing I can suggest is be consistent and firm with him. That cheeky lil' grin isn't going to always be so cute, so make sure you take a time out for yourself if you have to. It's a part of his learning and growing. Some kids just feel the need to push the boundaries a bit more. 



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shelnun
December 2008 | shelnun
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

My son is nearly 2 and sounds so much like your little boy, I do with him what I did with my 22yr old and all my others.  Continually remove them from the sorce of danger or from what they are enjoying distroying all the while telling them no.  The only thing is concictancy, you have to do it all the time or they think you are just playing with them.  The other thing I have done is when power points are involved Is a tap on the hand and a no.  It only took a few times and they never touched them again.  Kids arn't silly they know how to get us in.  By just giving us a grin.  You have to try not to fall into their trap.  I know how hard this is.

Good luck.



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karleigh
December 2008 | karleigh
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

go with your instinct my daughter had terrible twos around 1 year old and shes still got them a year and a half later you no what your son is like and you can tell the changes in him there brats at this time good luck



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sandra106
December 2008 | sandra106
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

They call it the terrible two's but it can strike early he sounds like areal cutie. They just have a natural curiousty for things and how they work I imagine you are chasing him all day. The best you can do if he is indangering himself is to keep warning him about them even if it takes awhile you will keep having to be consistent letting him no it is dangerous. My daughter had a fasination with power points when she was two and we put in those safety things she actually broke them and when we caught her in the act she told us dolly did it. Good luck it just a matter of your will be stronger than his.



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josierm
December 2008 | josierm
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

you have a clever and advanced little boy on your hands.  i have previoulsy written some adive called "tips for disciplining your toddler" which may be helpful.www.minti.com/parenting-advice/10406/Tips-for-disciplining-your-toddler/

i just tried to create a link, not sure if its going to work as i have never done it before.



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      josierm
December 2008 | josierm
Re: Can terrible two's come early, or am I not handling things right?

link seems to have worked.

BTW, dont react to his cheeky grin with a smile or any other form of positive reinforcement (as cute as it may be, and as difficult it may be to restrain yourself).  it will only encourage him.  (my kids try this on me too, sometimes it hard not to laugh)



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