HI I'M ONLY NEW TO ALL THIS BUT IF IT WAS MY DAUGHTER I WOULD JUST GET STRAIGHT TO THE POINT.IN AUSTRALIA WE DON'T BEAT  AROUND THE BUSH AS WE SAY.DON'T MAKE EXCUSES UP JUST BE UP FRONT AND SAY I WOULD PREFER THAT YOU DIDN'T KISS HER ON THE LIPS OR AT ALL IF THATS WHAT YOU REALLY WANT.THATS HOW INCEST STARTS WITH THE PEOPLE YOU LEAST EXPECT.

I don't know how well your daughter can communicate. I try and tell my kids as soon as they understand that they do not kiss or hug anyone unless they know it is ok by me. You could try this next time you see them and they go to give your daughter a kiss, "No Darling shake Johnny's hand you need to save all your kisses for Mummy and Daddy." Maybe then your too friendly Neighbours might pick up on what you are actually trying to say.

 Simple.  It's cold and flu season here in the US.  Just tell them that you guys are trying to get away from any kissing (especially on the lips) so that you can avoid spreading germs.  You could say something like,

"Oh, hey listen, a lot of kids we know have been getting sick, so we're trying to teach Loren not to do any kissing at all.  We'd like her not to try to share germs with all the other kids at daycare/preschool/playgroup!"

Or you could just address yourself to Loren next time you see it:

"No no, Loren, no kissies!"

That's a little more passive-aggressive if you're nervous.  

Because really, she probably should be taught not to kiss strangers.  If for no other reason then that someday she'll kiss some kid with the croup and be miserable. 

Oh My, I dont think that kissing neighbours children was done in the old fashioned sense either or may be I am from a different cultural norm. Close female neighbours might give a hug, but male neighbours would never, never give us more than a pat on the back or a handshake and I am 44yrs old. I do get hugs now from our old neighbours, but we are all grown up and so fair do's.

I would have a gentle word, you dont have to be heavy handed, but just say that in these times you are trying to teach your child to be surcumspect with adults and would appreciate their help in not allowing her to kiss them. If they take offence, then perhaps it's not as innocent as they would have you believe.

I dont think you are weak for not speaking up at the time, I think I might have been rather non plussed myself if it had been me in the situation, but if it happens again I would tell them it is a no, no.

Best Wishes, Luv Winnie.xxxx