"I'm sorry" shows you care, I'd be more upset if a friend or relative said nothing at all if it happened to me. I think you said the right thing.

"what are you sorry for?" "you are not the one that just had your baby taken away" . Just a few thoughts that may go through your sisters head but it is not like she would ever say that. I had a Miscarriage my first pregnancy and it is weired I just kind of felt numb to it at the time but after I gave birth to my first it really hit me what I missed out on with my first pregnancy and what my babies brother or sister would of looked like. Don't take offence to your sisters reaction she is probably doesnt know how to react herself and maybe express your feelings by taking her out for lunch or someting to get her mind off the loss.

Well, I can't understand what you mean by it being wrong to say "I;m sorry for your miscarriage"!!  I would think that's appropriate to say to anyone - you are acknowledging what they are going through and showing epathy for them.  No one can really ask for more than that.

Perhaps try "I haven't had a miscarriage, so I can't say I understand completely what youa re going through, but I do understand the heartache you are experiencing.  Just know that if you want to talk to me I'm there for you"

Other than those things, there really isn't much you can say to someone to comfort them in this situation until they are ready to ehar it, and everyone grieves in their own way and their own time.

Hope this helps you.  Sharon

i was lucky and no one knew about my 2 (last one other than my hubby no one knew till i posted here) and all my good friends all said they were sorry to hear that. That i could deal with fine as it is something that you are sorry to hear about.

I have found the best thing was just to be there for them if they need to cry or want you to look after other children, run a errin etc. everyone deals differently and we have to respect them and their wishes at the time as they are grieving.

i personally, was fortunate, in that not many people knew that i was pregnant when i miscarried.  i appreciated my close family and close friends saying i'm sorry, but i didn't want to hear it everytime i saw someone, as i was just trying to get through the days (i didn't want the topic brought up every 5 minutes).  i think if you are close to someone, then i'm sorry is nice, if you are just a colleague or acquaintance, then maybe best to leave it alone.  everyone has their own way of dealing with grief.  my sister supported me by totalling her car 2 days later (not hurt but shaken), took my mind off it at least as we had to focus on the next family crisis.   interesting week, that one.

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saying i am sorry is not at all a horibble thing to say, and i know i have had 4 miscarriages.

Believe me it is much worse when it is not  acknowledged or the loss is diminished because alot of people don't understand that it was a real person, they simply think oh well it was only so many weeks old was not born so does not matter!!  I found great relief in those words from people as it showed me that they cared and i was allowed to grieve for a child even though not met was still a part of me.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with an i am sorry and cuddle, it gives the opportunity to talk and just let it out.

Some people's way of coping is to avoid the subject until they're ready to hear about it. So if they heard 50 people come up to them that day saying they're sorry, it could be overwhelming in the fact that you're not ready to deal with it yet.

I didnt like hearing "im sorry" because it makes it sound like its someones fault when its not, and saying "im sorry" to me was like taking blame for something that was my loss.
It was my loss to go through and sorry didnt help, where as "I understand what your going through" was also only something I could hear from my mum and even then I didnt want to hear that for atleast a month or two because it was my grieving period.