You seem like a very caring mum, and even though I was not a teen when I fell pregnant my sister was. My sister never told them she was pregnant til she was 5 months and that was after she lied to them, All due to her child's grandfather saying that our parents would make her get an abortion.

I think it is great that your daughter trust's you enough to tell you and the fact that she knows she can come to you about anything. I don't think you are in the wrong for not being mad. I think you would be mad if she didn't tell you and that makes you a good mother and a great confidente for your daughter.

Good luck with it all and best wishes.

You are clearly a very understading person, so there is no reason why you should be mad with her and I think it is wonderful that you aren't.  The bond you have with your daughter must be very strong, and more parents could learn a lot from you.

I was going to suggest that you talke to inquisitive-creatures... and then I saw she had replied already. She is a wonderful example of exactlly what happened...

All i can say is that it's not wrong of you, and to just be there, support her, love her, and help her in every way you can. Read I-C's blog- it's full of the unique challenges of being a teen parent, and it may help you to be prepared for things along the way.

It's wonderful that you aren't mad at her. Considering her situation, if she hadn't, she may never have been a mom... I had to grapple with the thought of my parents never being grandparents, and I'll tell you it's not easy. I actually found it harder than my parents did. just something to think about.

Wow this could have been my own Mum writing this! I had the EXACT same thing happen to me when I was 17 years old. I was having abdominal pain while I was also on the pill and my regular doctor put it down to endometriosis and told me that I couldnt' have kids so he took me off the pill. 6 months later I was pregnant with my son.

Of course you shouldn't be mad at her, this is not her fault. If anyone is to blame it is the doctor. After my experience with my doctor I have since found a wonderful female doctor. Your daughter should not have been taken off the pill until her actual "infertility" had been investigated further, just like I shouldn't have been taken off the pill either.

I was terrified of telling my Mum but it was such a relief when she remained calm and gave me a hug. And when I told her I was keeping my baby she got really excited!! She wanted to come baby shopping with me and she was even in the birth room with me for my entire labour. My son will be 2 in February and I don't regret having him young at all because he still might be my one and only "miracle baby".

There is no way of fortelling the future and your daughter may not have been able to fall pregnant a few years down the track, so what you and her have been given is a blessing. And I am proud of you for supporting her. It's what she needs at the moment. Be there for her, talk to her, encourage her, get excited with her and just shower her with affection. She will love you for it!!

And not all teen mums follow the typical "teen mum" sterotype. I am now 20 years old, still with the father of my child going on 4 years now, I have a place of my own and we are getting married this September. Neither me or my partner take drugs or drink alcohol and we are the best parents we can be. So I think you made the right decision by not judging her and supporting her instead. This is the best way to go about it. After all if you got mad at her, how horrible and alone do you think she would have felt? I don't know what I would have done if my Mum got angry at me - but I do know I would have been terribly upset. So she is lucky to have a mum like you just like I was lucky to have a mum like mine.

All the best to you and your daughter. And enjoy that grandchild of yours !! Remember if she ever needs to talk to anyone, there are plenty of teen mums who can offer her support and be there for her. I'm always here !!

Love Samantha xox

Fisrtly you did not say how old your teen is or what her medical problems were.

I was 26 when I had my daughter and my mother want happy. I was in a relationship but not married and she thought I was throwing my life away. She was 35 and he had left her for another woman when I was born so she shouldnt have said anything.

I now have a beautiful daughter 11 and she is the only one I can have, mum got over herself but I never forgot it.

If you didnt support her she would turn to someone else for support and  it may turn out wrong. She didnt choose to become pregnant and she told you she was and didnt hide it so she evidently trusts you, To turn your back when she needs you most would be a travesty.

I hope all goes well with her and the baby.

No way!! your support is going to help more than anything at the moment. She probably thought that the normal typical parental response would be to freak out.

wow some of the feed back you got i thought were shocking.My question is how old is your daughter.Is there a family history with infertility and if not is this doctor a quack.

pftttt no! your support is fantastic esp at such a young age. kudos and enjoy spoiling your grand kid rotten.... parents actually do love it!! ::)'s from becca!

I think for future refrance that you also have to remind them that just cause they "cant" get pregnant that they can still catch std's!

I am a teen mum (21) but my patner is 32 so waiting would just make him older hehe.

Anyway, for other parents u got to remind them that std's r still catchable when u "cant" have children ;)

totaly not. I was told at 14 that I was like my mum and family and that i wouldnt be able to have kids either and I have 2.

I think it is amazing that she was able to concieve and that you are happy about it. It is good that she has your support.

I think it is very important to be supportive of her at this time, and as someone who thought they would never get get grandchildren from their daughter, I can see why you wouldnt be mad at her about it.
Its something you thought you wouldnt be getting and deep down, or maybe not deep down your happy about this, after all she might not be able to have children and this might be her one and only miracle baby.

Many teen mums go on to do great things, so remember that there is nothing wrong with being supportive.

I was a teen mom like I am sure many other people on here where.  I think its great that you are so supportive to your daughter.  The truth is she will need the emotional support in the up coming future!  As any mother can tell you, and I am sure you yourself realize this very same thing, being a mother at any age is emotional draining!  We are the ones who worry our children will stop breathing as babies, the ones who worries that their first christmas, birthday, and any of their first wont be perfect, we worry about them when they get older, and I know we will worry about our kids even when they are grown, have kids and a husband or wife of their very own!  So please continue to be such amazing supportive mother to her!  I know I wish I had a mother like you who supported my choice to keep my child!  You my dear are a insperation to us all, I pray I can be has strong as you if I am faced with my daughter being a teen mom!!!!!!

Hi there,

Its never wrong to be supportive of your children, if you got mad at her, how would she turn to you for support? I think the fact that you didnt get mad with her makes you an exceptional and supportive parent. I'm sure teen pregnancy isnt really what we all have in mind for our children, but what's the alternative? have her go through an abortion? Might sound extreme, but in my day, alot of teens i went to school with were forced by their parents to endure that sort of emotional decision, one of those girls, i still know today and recently had cervical cancer operation which meant she will never have kids!

What I see here is that you thought perhaps your little girl might not have been able to have kids of her own in her future as what the doctor said.. It would also be just as hard not to feel relieved that she will have that chance..I think your daughter is extremely lucky to have an understanding and supportive mum like you and I say to keep up the good work, although she will need alot of support because she will be a teen mum, it sounds like she has alot of emotional support from you.

All the best

Cheers from Mel xx

i dont think that your wrong for not being mad at her, its just important 2 support her in her choices and to let her know that you love her and are there for her!!!

good on you for being a supportive mum!!

xoxo