Try and find the intimacy between you.  Intimacy is more than just sex, it is more about connecting on a mental and emotional level.  Talking, just spending time together etc will help wtih this. 

Showering/bathing together might help you too.  With all the candles etc if you go for that sort of thing.

And taking the pressure off yourself.  The more you stress about it, the less you are going to feel like having sex as you might see it as a 'chore'.

Having kids does seem to diminish a your sex life, which leaves me wondering how we ended up with 5! lol. When the opportunities are there and you are ready for it, then go for it.

Have you got lingere? My partner loves it when I dress up in a corset lol and fishnet stocking... put of sum makeup and all that jazz!!! It keeps things alite!! and the corset covers my baby belly so i dont feel so flabby!

OK, I don't know whether you have kiddies and if so, how old they are.  If you have a young child(ren) then tiredness can have a HUGE impact on your libido.  It can also be difficult to change from mum mode over to lover mode.  If you can organise a little time out from your children this could help.  If you can arrange to have a day and night where they stay with someone you trust then give yourself some pamper time (depending on your budget this could be visiting a salon or doing some at home pampering - whatever is your thing to help you feel beautiful) and then organise (or get your partner to organise) a romantic dinner (this could be at home with candles/flowers, a nice restaurant, take away at the beach on twilight - whatever your definition of romantic is) and then just let whatever happens over the rest of the night happen.  However, probably one of the most important things you can do is to communicate with your partner how you're feeling.  Just talking about it with them may help you to feel more confident ,secure and loved in your relationship (which for me is huge turn on).

Best wishes!

Do you know why you don't feel sexy? I feel a bit unsexy at the moment too but I need to lose some weight. You are more than welcome to join my weight loss/gain challenge if you like if this is the problem.

 There is a group here on minti called "Spice up your life" that could help in giving you some ideas of bringing some romance back into your life.

Firstly though you need to feel good about yourself, maybe some pampering, a massage, a facial, visiting the hair dresser or maybe a new wardrobe including some sexy lingerie....would be a good start . Then maybe a romantic dinner out for two, might set the mood for other things.

I wish you well.