Hi there, I know exactly what your going through my 18 mth daughter is doing exactly the same thing . Except her catch phrase is no way! With two older daughters and with my 18 mnth, i found that as other members have stated that distraction is a wonderful method for your basic discipline issue. If you find however that you little one starts biting, hiting etc, that a technique told to me by a nurse was to gently but firmly place them down on the floor, cot etc and get down to there level and tell them Mummy doesnt like you  doing that that was naughty or what ever works better. I am currently using this technique and it is working really well.

I hope that this helps, all the best.

Dealing with this kind of behaviour is really tiring and frustrating. It is amazing that you are doing this well with such difficult behaviour. It takes a lot to ask for help- it's really awesome that you did. I'm glad you felt okay asking. Asking for help isn't easy, becuase we have to admit the truth of how we feel.

There are many articles here, and I'm not a parent to put in my too sense worth on that. But I do know that kids can be frustrating, and they know exactly how to push our emotional buttons.

So, I just have a couple little suggestions for those times when your really frustrated.When it feels like more than you can handle, put him in a safe place and take a time out. Put him in his room, shut the door, and let him cry if you need to. He's safe, and it gives you a chance to regroup without doing anything you'll feel guilty about later. It's okay to get a babysitter so you can have an hour to get your hair cut. It's important that you take care of yourself, and keep your stress where you can manage it.

There are too many times people get caught up in the moment and do things they feel guilty about afterwards, or sometimes end up regretting the rest of your life. A time out can be just as much for the parent as for the child. Addressing difficult behaviors takes time and patience, so you'll need to look after yourself to be able to handle it. These behaviours are speficily designed to be really hard to cope with, so make time for a cup of tea and a warm bath. Maybe write a journal or a diary, or call a friend.

It's a sign of strength to know when your at your max and to ask for help. It awesome that you were able to, as not everyone is able to do that. Congratulations! It shows how loving and caring and wonderful a parent you are that you could ask for help like this. it isn't easy. Keep doing the best you can, and it will work out in the end.

God bless and all the best.

Iamschild.

You need to ignore him saying "no". Whatever it is that he is doing wrong wether it being rough with toy's or hittng another child or yourself you need to take imediate action. If your tolder is being rough with something you can take the toy or toys from him, then place them somewhere he cannot get to them and wait till he calms down. Once he has calmed down sit down and explain to him what happened and why it was taken away, then ask for an apology then give the toys back ( well at 2 years old he may not understand an opology completely  but its good practice and he will learn quickly what it means, which is a good thing). If he is hitting  another child remove him from the situation and in a low tone voice let him know what he is doing is not acceptable, and disclude him from the game till he calms down and opologises and agrees to play nicely. It' works I've done it with all 6 of my kids. What exactly is the issue though? as toddlers get up to all sorts of things, what is the one thing he is doing the most? I know he is saying "no" to you alot, you could just ignore him, but if he gets physical just put him in time out for two minutes. If he keeps getting up just keep putting him back till he relalises you are always gonna just put him back, he will then give up and stay put till its time to get up. I fidn tiem outs work but never find I need to use them much if I'm alway's onto them form an earky age, though they do have there moments. Hope this helps a little.

My Son also tells us no a lot, what we have found useful is to take the word NO from our vocabulary.  EG if he is doing something that you don't what him to do instead of saying "NO! don't do that.   Get him to look you in the eye and say to him "mummy doesn't like you doing that" or "Please do not do that"  Also distraction works well, take him away from what he is not alowed to do and get him to do somthing that he is alowed to do and then praise him for do it.

Hope this helps, it takes time but slowly our son is learning what he should and shouldn't do.

Personally I think you can start training your child from birth! I reccomend reading "To Train Up A Child" by Micahel and Debi Pearl.  This book has some amazing facts. I'm willing to try it on my son.

At this age, babies don't understand a lof of things yet so it's important to keep in mind that whatever they are doing, they're not doing it out of spite or naughtiness.  Repeating the word no means he's heard a lot. lol... sthis is something most of us do. One of the things you can try is not to say "no". For example, instead of saying "No, don't hit!" you can try "It's not nice to hit", and then try a distraction/redirection. You can pick him up and and place him somewhere else in the room and give him something else that could occupy him. Or take whatever it is he may have and give him with something equally interesting.  Be prepared to do this a lot of times though.

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