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jenmum
jenmum | January 2009

bullying

i was wondering what other parents would do my son is being bullyed he is six these kids pretend to be his friends then treat him like (..........) they range in ages from 7-10 . one is definately a ring leader my son still thinks they are friends its not easy keeping him away from them we live in a small community.  hes had rocks thrown at his face been threaten to be punched out of the park ect.  every time my son plays with his nice friends this kid comes along joins in and pushes him out. other people have heard how this kids talks and acts towards my son.  his family has been approached and all they say is sorry their kid is a follower they have even been apologetic but dont see it for what it is  their child could do nothing wrong. my problem is i always taught my son not to hit  be nice to girls ect . have i done the wrong thing should i let him retaliate because its illegal for me to do anything about this situation.



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webkumpf
January 2009 | webkumpf
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Your six year old should be playing with other six year olds, not 7 to 10 year olds. I would try to find other children the same age as your child to play with.

Regarding being the target of rocks being thrown at him, this is unacceptable. If talking to the parents isn't working, then letting them know that the next time your child is assaulted (and it is an "assault" not just being bullied verbally) you will speak with the police. Best of luck!



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mystikal
January 2009 | mystikal
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Wow you're handling this rather civally, good job! I'd take a photo of my son's face, print it out and send it to his parents and say PLEASE EXPLAIN!?!?



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      mystikal
January 2009 | mystikal
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I'd also document everything together with the photos, print it all out and hand it to his principal to read. If you take this matter seriously the principal should be taking the appropriate action.




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Bluebird97
January 2009 | Bluebird97
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Ask your son if he would throw rocks in his friends faces, threaten to punch them out and any other thing these kids are doing then ask "does this sound like something a friend would do to you?" Then gently suggest that until you see that these children have become nice he should stay away from them and play with the other children and go to a teacher if they bully him while playing with them. Go to the Principal and tell them about your concerns, tell them you are writing a letter to the Department of Education in charge of your region telling them what is happening and threaten legal action if nothing is done to stop this. That should make them sit up and listen as they dont take kindly to these threats.

My daughter used to attend Catholic school and the children there told her how they were going to murder her. I spoke to the school but they didnt do anything and my baby was constantly being bullied and got the blame for it so I moved her but that school was worse so after 2.5 year there I pulled her out and now homeschool. The school went off as they get money because she is part aboriginal and she has ADHD so they get a fair amount of money for her but I refused to send her back and questioned them about the money as they never spent it on anything but they wouldnt discuss it with me and neither would the ed.dept.

I have been taking Erin to karate classes for 4 years now and she can defend herself if need be but where she goes they are encouraged to walk away where possible and only use enough force to stop the fight and get clear. On the occasions she has had to use her skills she has reported to her instructor and either praise or told off depending on the situation. Having him retaliate will be feeding into their hands and might get him seriously hurt since there are a group of them. Erin retaliated on one boy and got into serious trouble until I went up there and blew the roof off the school and threatened them wihleagal action for not providing proper care for my daughter against a known bully. This child was 10 and he used to beat kindy kids up but he hit the wrong child and Erin let fly, needless to say he never touched Erin or her cousin again but she had been bullied by this child for the whole time she was at the school and she was bigger and had the skills to take him on..



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raema
January 2009 | raema
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The same thing happened to my son and it went on for three years - speak to his teacher and principal so they can be on the lookout for that sort of behaviour. Keep an eye on your son and try to be whereever he is . When you see this boy approach your son make eye contact with him then take your boy and walk away -  that way he knows that you know and you will not tolerate his behaviour to your son. Invite a few kids his age or in his class to play at your house not ones that are involved in the bullying - he needs to develop friendships with kids that dont behave like that and he will be safe with.  good luck



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ReannaBexleiyroseSummerKiarah
January 2009 | ReannaBexleiyroseSummerKiarah
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Hey there, awwww i feel sorry for your son, what i would, i'd have a talk to his teacher and the principal and see if they can do something, maybe they can talk to the parents and the boy and usually coming from the teacher they may listen more..hope this helps



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