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ReannaBexleiyroseSummerKiarah | February 2009

school problems

Hey bexleiy-rose has just started kindergarten, she is 6, has a few disabiltys which she has a teachers aid for, she has severe speech and language delay, learning delay, add, odd and sleep apneia. She has been finding it very hard with the speration part in the morning which ends up in a huge kicking screaming match for about 10minutes then settles once i've left. i've spoken to her teacher that says she is doing really well in class, is very smart and does all her work, but is very quiet and non response around other classmates and the teacher sometimes. she has taken very well to one little girl who she clings too, which is good. She is also on medication for her disabilitys. But my question is that today i picked her up and all was good, spoke to teacher and she said not a problem at all, all the kids like her..hoped on the bus to go home with her today and i noticed one of the mums from the skool and her son is in bexleiy-rose class on the bus, so i say hi how are you.  she replies to me quiet rudely and said my i am sick of your daughter picking on my son, hitting him , pushing him and being really nasty to him. i have replied and said i dont think bexleiy would do that, shes quite delayed and withdrawn with anyone in the class and doesnt talk at all, and you would not get any comment out of bexleiy-rose as she has speech problems. I have also said and mentioned her other problems and she ranted and said she's pcking on him and being mean. I was quite shocked to here this as i know myself bexleiy-rose isnt capble of doing that. I have then asked bexleiy-rose about this anhd she doesnt even talk or interact with this child. she told me all she plays with is a little girl asheligh. I also asked a few other questions like, who does this boy play with, does anyone hhurt him and her response was he plays on his own and everyone is nice to him..I then walk further up the bus and overhear the mum then say, ok conner, so bexleiy and some one else does this who else, and she kept going on and on to her son, trying to get him to say more stuff, and it was like she was trying to put ideas in his head. i'm hoping she's trying not to make trouble. I am quite upset by this and dont know what to do, she also give me wierd looks all the time. what do i do, help please



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raema
February 2009 | raema
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Speak to the teacher and let her know what happened, Think about having a meeting with the teacher, aid and the principal about your concerns. Ignore this ignorant woman her power is comming from how  upset you get. Sounds like she is after attention.



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mystikal
February 2009 | mystikal
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Wow that's rude of her. Even if her son is being picked on you would at least hope she could approach you sensibly and have a mature conversation about it. It seems she was acting rather irrationally on the bus and while she was already in a bad mood decided to make a scene and ask who else did it.

I think that is the wrong way to go about it because my dad used to stick up for me ALL the time, whether I was right or wrong when I was younger and so I went out of my way to cause trouble at school. Any teacher or person I didn't like, I pointed out to my dad because I knew he would say something to them. I grew up with this state of mind of "Oh just you wait until my father hears about this, he's not going to be happy!" and I learnt to deal with things inappropriately and he also unconsciously taught me that I need to be aggressive to be heard. It wasn't until I met my partner that I learnt to have manners and deal with things civally. I can still be rather blunt but I do try my hardest to be civil first. But my experience was very negative with that kind of upbringing.

I would talk to her teacher and just check that she hasn't been up to no good. Even if you know that she can't get up to this kind of behaviour, it's good to have a witness. Then when this aggressive mother approaches you or stares at you again you can quite calmly say, I talked to Bexleiy's teacher to find out if she was doing this to your son and she has been watching her all week and hasnt even been near your son! So before you go picking on a poor innocent girl who has a few disabilities I think you should think twice about how you speak to people! Then I'd completely ignore her.



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MEL192
February 2009 | MEL192
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 Talk to her teacher, ask if there is any concerns. The mum might have your daughter confused with someone else.

Even if it is true, she could have approached you in a better way.  Let the mum know you are happy to discuss the situation with her, but you just want to get the facts right first.



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ellebelle07
February 2009 | ellebelle07
Ignorant?

A previous comment said ignorant, I believe it's intollerance for people who are different, wheather that be intellectual, physical  racial or religous. Is this a public or private school? As, unfortunately no matter what country you're in the public sector is over worked and underpaid with some of the most brilliant teachers who have to cater for the masses as apposed to taking an individual approach.

Reguardless of the sector of the school system,  you mentioned your child has an assistant. Speak to the assistant as well you main gain a little more insite from someone focused soley on your child.



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livsmum
February 2009 | livsmum
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You poor thing!  I'm with DA, overbearing mothers usually tend to be the problem!!  Definitely speak to teacher and ask them to keep an eye out and let you know if anything unusual is occuring between your daughter & this boy.  Then at least you will know - and just ignore that annoying woman!  These things always come out in the wash.  Good luck with her!



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August88
February 2009 | August88
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If she is that worried she should be talking to the teachers at Kindy. I am sure they would have told you if they had noticed this behaviour. Talk to the teachers yourself if you are worried and try not to get involved with a confrontation with this woman as it sounds like she is not good at dealing with this in the right way. If her son made a complaint to her about being bullied she should be asking the teachers to keep an eye on it.



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mouse5
February 2009 | mouse5
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I THINK THIS WOMAN HAS A PROBLEM WITH HER SON BEING IN THE SAME CLASS AS YOUR DAUGHTER.  I DON'T THINK YOUR DAUGHTER OR HER SON HAVE ANY PROBLEMS BEING IN THE SAME CLASS.   SOME ADULTS ARE JUST PLAIN IGNORANT.  IT SOUNDS LIKE THE TEACHER SHOULD BE TALKING TO THIS WOMAN TO FIND OUT JUST WHAT HER PROBLEM IS.  I HOPE YOUR LITTLE GIRL ENJOYS SCHOOL AND DOESN'T LET THIS WOMAN UPSET HER.  MAYBE YOU COULD INVITE HER AND HER SON OVER AFTER SCHOOL ONE DAY TO HELP HER UNDERSTAND YOUR DAUGHTER AND REALISE THERE IS NO BULLYING GOING ON.  IT SEEMS TO ME THAT SHE IS THE BULLY.



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Rukia
February 2009 | Rukia
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speak to the teacher tomorrow when you go in.

If you know that your daughter wouldnt do this then i would be inclinded to honestly believe that, also teachers HAVE to tell the parent if their child has hit, hurt or anything to a child and has been hit/hurt etc. I am 100% certian that your teacher would of told you if this was happening.

Also this parent might be a parent that cant handle their child not having a million friends so her son must be picked on and sadly u just happened to be there at the wrong time.



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      DarkenedAngel
February 2009 | DarkenedAngel
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I totally agree with this.

Talk to the teacher about it. If her child is having problems, the teacher will know. I'm inclined to suspect any problems however will probably turn out to be mummy dearest's fault, not that of your daughter!



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