is this lady a grandmother to the children?

how old are the children?

i personally would never feel comfortable with this.

i support what some of the members have said below... try talk to her again and get her to understand you dont feel comfortable with it, regardless of your reasons (none of her business why), if she is still nasty, then go the court order.

File an immediate protection order and get a police person to serve it to her in person to make sure she gets it. What a mole, as if you would do that to someone after 13 years of friendship. Maybe she got carried away and has forgotten that these children aren't her grandkids. Still no excuse. Document everything from now on. If she contacts you again, date it, write the time and the message, have witnesses if possible. Try to get it in writing for example, emails, or voice message for example answering machine replies. Do not ever get rid of this in case you need it some day.

Go to your local MAgistrate and talk to them. If they say she can do this then get get a quick order that says your children cannot be taken out of the state unless it is all legal and no one but you or their father is allowed to do this.

I would be very suspicious of her with the things she has said. Talk to your ex and see how much he knows and make sure he's telling you the truth. She sounds scary to me and I wouldnt let her anywhere near my children and I would let them know that their is a plan for them after school if you dont pick them up and unless you tell them otherwise they dont deviate from that plan no matter what. Tell them that if plans change you will ring the school and ask to speak to each of them so they all know what the plan is.

Good luck.

Hi Does this person have any guardianship over the kids?  Who would give her permission to take the kids out of the state?  Are the kids old enough to go away with someone else.  Can you get a court order?

If your gut feeling is you don't trust her, then discuss this with your ex.  Who has custody of the kids, him youor joint.  If you have sole custody, she cannot take them unless she gets your approval, if it's joint custody, get some legal advice.  I have friends whom I would not hesitate in palming my kids off to!  So it seems your instinct is telling you no for good reason.

All you can do is try to remain calm, and remind her that they are your kids not hers and you appreciate her genourosity but you will have to decline as you are not comfortable with leaving the kids with someone else for so long.  Another thought, can you afford to pay your own way then you  could both be satified.

But I reckon her reaction and the way she has gone about things is odd - why so sneaky what is she up to??   How does she know so much about what she can do legally.  I wouldn't be taking anymore  financial support from her as that would be hypocritical.  Given that she has done so much for you over the past 13 yrs I can understand why she would be offended or upset - it could just be she is a kind hearted woman