Need Help Urgently
I really need help with my 6yr old daughter, made heaps of posts in the past, but whats been happening in the last two weeks is a nightmare. I'll put in point form her disabiltys/diagnosis and specialist she sees then put what has been happening, so u get a clear picture.
*6yrs old
*been diagnosed ADD,ODD, SLEEP APNEIA, SEVERE SPEECH AND LEARNING DELAYS
*medicated on ritilin-10mg 3 times a day, by peadetrician
*see's speech therapist, peadritian, physcoligist,
*changed her diet, healthy diet,
Bexleiy of the past few days has been having epispodes of agreesive and
non-responsive behavior and becomes uncontrollable and blank and
foccussed on her disobedience. She become super strengthed unable
to be held and very loud and agressive hitting and pinching struggling
against any form or attempt at calming her. When opposed or put into
her room begins banging on doors and damaging objects, messing her room
and possessions up and acting in defient ways. She also goes into repition
of loud noises and words ignoring anyone asking her to clam down or
be more quiet and becomes louder when requested to quiten down.
This can be triggered by something as simple as being told for the
third of fouth time - Bexleiy please go and have a bath! When told
more directly and sternly she triggers into an episode of the above
behavior and any attempt to tell her is responded with agressive
behavior, glazed eyes and blank stares. Her pupils dialate (become
enlargered) and her strength is more than a single adult can manage.
Environmental changes - school, close school friends acting around
her in hyperactive ways (very excited and wont listen to requests),
feral (out of control), her closest friend has been stealing and lying and
whinges at lot complaining (dobbing) other kids in for things they
have not done. Bexleiy is the centre stage for focus in her class everyone
wants to be her firend. She is social and plays with a central 5 - 6 person
group of boys and girls.
She is doing very well in her class academically. She has on a few occasions
been diciplined at school for reported pinching in the play group, being
disobedient to a teacher who at the end of recess requested they come
into class and 3 - 4 children hid from the teacher and it took 10 minutes
to get them into class.Putting glue on a students shirt, scribbling on other childrens work, and flushing hats down the
toilet. This resulted in being sent to the office - the
other children said it was Bexleiy who said to run and hide from the
teacher (unconfirmed - Bexleiy says different).
We feel that something may have happened at school,or in the past with ex parnters. or a childs
house or she may have been bullied but Bexleiy when asked what
is wrong, or has anything happened at school, starts looking away
from eye contact and either distracting behavior (diversion of topic),
or gets emotional and angry, or cries but still does not say what is
going on. Bexleiy has become very obsessed with her closest friend
(Ashley) and won't seperate from her at school or in class, and Ashely
is also the same back to her. She often rejects other friends because
of her desire to be with Ashley and ignore them or walk away. Ashley we
feel is not the best influence on Bexleiy as she behaviorally is very
hyperactive and at times naughty and disobedient. It is however very
difficult to seperate them from playing together and we feel not right
to say things such as "we don't want you playing with Ashley".
She also becomes very softly spoken in class and lacks vocal and ability
confidence and the teacher finds it difficult to hear what she is saying
at times. Always seeking attention from teacher for acadmic approval.
She gets huffy if the teacher gives academic attention to other kids and
dismisses her need for approval from the teacher. She often seeks the
teachers assistance on things she does not want to do on her own. When
the teacher is unable to give this assistance rather than attempt it she
will just go sit down and not do the activity - this may be to aviod failure or
doing it wrong or be seen by others doing it wrong.
Bexleiy was very anxious starting school on the first few weeks, and at
times still display anxiety of separation when mum leaves after drop off.
* saturday night-camping,- 5pm-1am
*screaming whole campsite down, swearing , yelling crying very emotional
*wreaking things, trying to destroy tent, throwing large objects and hurting me and mike, hurting mike really badly by
throwing things like shoes,cups,keys,torch at his head which with the torch hit him really hard. pinching very hard cause really bad marks and a lot of pain
to sister, me and mike.
*Huge fear of toilets, refuses to use public toilets-hates bins in toilet, i remove them, she still freaks. wets herself always, every night wet bed..
wont use public toilet stands still and wets self.
* wont dress herself daily, wont feed her self, gets very emotional screaming, crying for me to feed her..a massive struggle to get her dressed, takes usually
40minutes to dress her as she is so strong and refuses.
*eyes turn black and go watery glazed when she goes destructive, then apolgises 1 hour after, not knowing what she did wrong
*stealing and hiding car keys, setting alarm off and we could find car keys cause she had hidden them this went on for an hour with car alarm
ringing loudly disturbing campsite.
Sunday night:5pm-12am
*throwing plates, pots, shoes, large objects , smashing them, and being very voilent towards mike,nearly causing mike to call police because of the
strength and types of voilence she was doing to him
*swearing "your a dumb arse bitch head" Loser" always says these daily
*stealing keys which were way out of reach, she climbed on top of cupboards to grab them , unlocked car, jumped in, whilst we were trying to pull her out
she was punching screaming and yelling, kicking throwing things being very voilent, we could not control her her strength was to strong, me mike,
and a male neighbour couldnt even get her out of car, she blasted horn for 2hours, locked herself in car with keys we had no way of getting
her out, she reversed car which nearly knocked down her 4yr old sister, thowing thing at the car windows whilst inside, alerted most of the neighbourhood
which looked on in complete shock, no one could help , they even tryed and she was so voilent. She was going crazy in the car jumping franticly
from each seat screaming, blasting horn. She finally unlocked car after a 2hour ordeal, and i managed with mike to get her out of car.
* She then bolted out onto the street and ran down to the end of the street screaming and swaying arms, jumping, crying and laughing. Onlookers were
shocked. finally grabbed her and held her hand and she walked back with me crying. When i thought all was good , she then bolted
again the other direction pressing peoples door bells, banging on there doors at like 10pm at night. coaxed her back home, she then ran and jumped and
climbed on to the top of our car, which is a nissen xtrail (big car), and started jumping and screaming on the roof,bending the window screen wipers laughing
uncontrolably., neighbours were furious, telling us over the fence to control her, that they were trying to sleep,
we did not know what to do, we tryed everything...we got so close to calling the police.
after all this ordeal she casually walked in side sat down at television and watched tv (total different child) saying love you mummy and daddy. cuddling us
and saying sorry. She was asking why we were tired and angry and why neighbours came over, we explained what happeened and she saidd i did nothing
mummy and daddy, me being a good girl. She couldnt remeber a thing...We then had about an hour of trying to get her to go to sleep, which was a bit
difficult, but she finally crashed
Monday:
7-30, tryed getting her up for school, was to tired, finally got her up at 8.30am, with 10minutes to get her ready, she put on a performance trying to get dresses
which happens every morning. refused to eat breakfast, which happens everymorning. then took to school. ran off at school, wouldnt come back. got her
class and shes an angel..
sorry that its really long, but i really dont know what to do, do i call police on my own daughter (i feel horrible to even have to say that) she's only 6 but its really bad what she is doing, or do i take her to the hosp[ital..or does anyone have any other suggestion.
Advice List: Extreme behavioural issues in young children.
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