magenta's Minti Blog http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/ magenta's Minti Blog Copyright 2008 Minti en-uk Boys back at school!! magenta Well the boys were back to school yesterday, yippee!!!  I know thats sounds horrible but they were just starting to get on each other's nerves and mine. So i caught up on a few jobs yesterday and should be doing more today but it's not the weather for it.  Its raining and a bit chilly so i decided a hot drink, ... Well the boys were back to school yesterday, yippee!!! 

I know thats sounds horrible but they were just starting to get on each other's nerves and mine. So i caught up on a few jobs yesterday and should be doing more today but it's not the weather for it.  Its raining and a bit chilly so i decided a hot drink, laptop and bed would be a good choice until i have to pick the boys up from school. I'm still suffering from effects of the flu so i don't even feel guilty about it. I've been busy this morning making phone calls without being interupted so i've got everything sorted out for now. I've had to cancel my gym membership because i was finding it too hard to get there, i really need to loose weight but the 40mins in the car there and back was just taking up too much time. Eddie has finally orgainised re-finance on the house so hopefully in the next 4 months we'll have the shed and patio finished, then i can get him to build my chook pen and get the gardens ready for planting, i can't wait!!!  First thing though he has to get my pantry and linen cupboards finished or thats it, i'll have to stop looking after him so well until he does, lol!  There is so much to do and because we are going to try and do the majority ourselves it will take time, and lots of it!

The boys were happy to be back at school yesterday, they've missed their friends and even enjoyed schoolwork! Not sure how long that will last....   Billy was really good at getting ready for school yesterday but back to the usual this morning, cranky little boy that he is!! 

I've been trying so hard to accept that Eddie and i won't be having a baby together (his choice not mine) but its a struggle most days, even worse now that i've found out 2 of my neighbours are TTC, how will i cope? I'm so happy for them and excited but feeling very jealous as well. I don't think i've ever felt jealous before so its all new and confusing for me. I love reading about all our Minti Mum's that are expecting, (some sound very close today!), but i don't have to see you all everyday! Now i really sound nasty don't i!  Oh well, i'm hoping that in time i'll get over it and it won't effect me as much. Eddie and i had another talk about it the other night. He hasn't changed his mind, however i did make it clear to him that as much as i love him it will always be there between us. It won't stop me from loving him in any way but i will always wonder about what could've been. Anyways, now that i've bored you to tears i'd best be off.  Take care everyone and i hope we hear about some safe and quick deliveries!!

Maggie  xoxo

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/759259/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/759259/ Tue, 15 Jul 2008 19:28:50 -0700 Still got the flu magenta I can't believe it, its been over a week and i still feel like (no nice word comes to mind!), i thought i'd be over it by now. I've tried everything you can imagine but i'm not getting any better. The last resort will be the doctors but i want to avoid antibiotics if i can, not only do they ... I can't believe it, its been over a week and i still feel like (no nice word comes to mind!), i thought i'd be over it by now. I've tried everything you can imagine but i'm not getting any better. The last resort will be the doctors but i want to avoid antibiotics if i can, not only do they make me sick but then this rotten pill that i've gone back on (for Eddie's sake not mine!) will be useless. It's finally stopped raining but now its really cold, the boys are starting to fight, i'm still trying to catch up on washing, all i want to do is sleep and i basically feel rotten about everything!  Eddie came home in a foul mood yesterday and i think he has passed it on to me. He must have  woke up ok and feeling guilty because i got coffee in bed and it isn't the weekend. Oh how i love him when he behaves!!

Went to Kung Fu Panda, was great, funny and worth seeing it at the movies. Not sure if i was laughing at the movie or at Billy who was in hysterics through most of it!

Stuck in the house for another day, don't want to spread my germs and really don't have the energy or inclination to do anything anyway.

Take care everyone

Maggie  xoxox

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/754166/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/754166/ Wed, 09 Jul 2008 18:05:28 -0700 Holidays magenta Well with Eddie working away so much lately i decided to take off with the boys for a few days, i figured it was better than staying at home all holidays. So we packed up and took off last Monday up to my brother's family's place in Calliope, it took just about all day to get up there. With 2 ... Well with Eddie working away so much lately i decided to take off with the boys for a few days, i figured it was better than staying at home all holidays. So we packed up and took off last Monday up to my brother's family's place in Calliope, it took just about all day to get up there. With 2 quick pit stops and a stop at a friend's place in Bundaberg for about 2 hours to give the boys something to do after over 5 hours in the car, it was about 7.5 hours driving all up. It was so good to catch up with everyone, we hadn't seen them since last September school holidays. Both my neices are growing up so fast and my nephew is getting so tall. Their place has turned into a real hobby farm, so the boys had a great time getting dirty and playing with goats, chooks, geese, pigs etc, etc. We all had a great time but just when i thought i was over the flu  for this year i've caught something even worse, not sure if it was from my family or the goats, lol!  I had planned to do the same stops on the way home but i felt so sick all i wanted was to click my heels together and get here asap, so we didn't get to visit anyone on the way home (i'm not one to spread my germs anyway!). The trip was ok until we hit Brissy as usual, even though i tried to avoid getting there a peak hour we managed it anyway.

So i've got some catching up to do, reading blogs etc.....   Eddie is working close to home for the next 2 weeks now so that is good, i hope!  Had to do some shopping today and the boys spent the last of their savings on a new game and controllers for their Wii so they are really happy. And we have promised if they behaved really well, which they have been doing much to my amazement, we would take them to see Kung Foo Panda tomorrow night. Even i'm excited, it looks like a great movie. Well i hope you are all doing ok, glad i didn't miss any early births while i was away!!!

Maggie  xoxo

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/751556/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/751556/ Mon, 07 Jul 2008 03:57:48 -0700 Sick of sad news magenta Two more days and the boys are on holidays, it doesn't feel that long since the last lot!!  Or do i  feel like that because there seems to be at least one home sick every week??  It was Billy today, so i'm hoping that after 2 weeks off school they'll be over it all and the kids that keep infecting them will be ... Two more days and the boys are on holidays, it doesn't feel that long since the last lot!!  Or do i  feel like that because there seems to be at least one home sick every week??  It was Billy today, so i'm hoping that after 2 weeks off school they'll be over it all and the kids that keep infecting them will be better too!!  Well Eddie is away AGAIN, this new job was supposed to not have as much travel but it seems to me its more.  Not impressed!  But i guess its $$$ and he really likes what he is doing, its more of a challenge (i thought thats why he had me!! lol). 

I'm a bit of a news buff, and need to watch at least one news show a day or get online to keep up with whats going on in the world.  It's probably me just being naturally nosey!!  But this week i've been actively trying to avoid it.  Why?  Because of all the terrible things that are happening here, so close to home.  I've been in tears so many times since last week over the unnecessary deaths and abuse of children.  Even though i know its not uncommon and it happens on a daily basis in homes all over the world, knowing it can happen in our country is impossible to comprehend.  We all know as parents that not enough is being done for these children to avoid the horrific outcomes and i also know how bad situations have to be before the state will even consider removing a child.  Why is this?  I don't think anybody has an answer for that one.  I know that if i had any incling that a child was at risk i would be straight on the phone to Dept of Families and Police.  I know this doesn't insure an investigation but at least i would know i've done what i can and hopefully other people seeing what is going on will do the same.  I'm sick of seeing and hearing people saying "i wish i would've done something...... "  It's not that hard to make a phone call and if you are wrong then so be it, but if you can save the life of a child then its more than worth it.  And if you do make a call and you can see nothing is being done then keep calling if thats what it takes. 

I've read a certain "Q&A" and i'm dumbfounded at what has been written and supposedly done to a certain member.  I'm also pretty damn mad about it.  If it is a "true situation" then i feel that there is some serious problems in this family for authorities to act the way they have and if it turns out not to be a "true situation" it's a sad way to get attention from well-meaning parents. I'm expecting backlash for these comments and if you feel the need to "report" me go for it!  I just had to vent my opinions and that is what our "blogs" are for.  But if the reason this is happening  to this family is because of the church she is in then she needs to think of her children first and move far away from any of these people she has been in contact with. As great as we all are at giving advice, this parent needs to be off her computer and getting help.  As a parent your children's health and safety must always come first.  If i've ruffled your feathers, good!   Because i've just about pulled all mine out over this one!!

Maggie

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/741273/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/741273/ Wed, 25 Jun 2008 01:04:58 -0700 Transporting Virus's magenta Just when i thought we all might finally be over this constant flu and cold episode, it's hit again!  This time it's Tommy home and even though i don't think he is that sick it  is deffinately the start of something else!!   What a pain in the butt!!!  Eddie and i are still suffering from a lingering cough after the ... Just when i thought we all might finally be over this constant flu and cold episode, it's hit again!  This time it's Tommy home and even though i don't think he is that sick it  is deffinately the start of something else!!   What a pain in the butt!!!  Eddie and i are still suffering from a lingering cough after the last one.  He actually caught a bit of the last bug that was transported home from school and he never gets sick!  I'm fine with the usual 1 virus per person per year, or maybe even 2 but this is getting beyond a joke!!

Its been really quiet here on the home-front this last week.  Eddie and Jack were out for the day on Sat so it was just me and the twins.  It felt strange having kids in the house that weren't fighting, but the 3 of them made up for it on Sunday!  We went up to Noosa Heads to watch Eddie's dad race, then we stopped at the beach on the way home. I miss living near the beach so much so i rubbed my feet in the sand and we went for a huge walk. The boys were cranky because we wouldn't let them swim, the water was so warm but there was a really cold wind and i really wanted to aviod anyone getting sick (and its happened anyway!).   Mind you they all managed to get a good soaking!!  We even stopped for Maccas on the way home, what a treat for us all!!!   Eddie is back in Mackay again this week, 3 weeks in a row but at least he is home on weekends.  I think he will be gone again next week too, i miss him heaps when he is gone but its good to have some time with the boys and have a few slack meals during the week, lol.  I had planned to start back at the gym today but thanks to Tommy i'm stuck at home again!!  Oh well, there is always plenty of housework to do, 3 loads of washing already!!  

It sounds like there are a couple of "Mum's-to-be" getting closer to their time, so best wishes for a safe and not too long delivery!

Maggie  xoxo

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/734916/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/734916/ Mon, 16 Jun 2008 18:10:10 -0700 Friends..... magenta I got to catch up with a friend i haven't seen for a few months this morning. It was so great, i haven't made any friends here since moving and  our family are all too busy or too far away.  I hadn't seen my friend since before my last miscarriage and it was so good to talk to someone who cares and understands. It ... I got to catch up with a friend i haven't seen for a few months this morning. It was so great, i haven't made any friends here since moving and  our family are all too busy or too far away.  I hadn't seen my friend since before my last miscarriage and it was so good to talk to someone who cares and understands. It did bring the hurt back again but i feel so much better for it. I didn't realise how much hurt and sadness i still had bottled up, i have been trying to convice myself that i was ok and that i was over it all. I've been really depressed since and have been avoiding my doctor because i know she'll want me to go back on medication again. I really don't want to, and i know how far to let things go before i do ask for help.

Well its got me thinking that maybe i should put a bit more effort into finding some friends, only thing is i don't seem to have much in common with the Mum's at school and i don't work so my social life is a bit dull and the estate we live in is very quiet. Oh well, maybe its just me.... i will try a bit harder over the next few weeks and see what happens.

Maggie

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/729925/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/729925/ Tue, 10 Jun 2008 00:51:26 -0700 Messy boys in the loo! magenta Well its finally Friday and i've been so excited this week, we are taking the boys to Dreamworld tomorrow!! YIPEE!!!  We haven't told them where we are going yet, just that we are going out for the day so they have no idea, he, he, he! We have done this before with Underwater World and Australia Zoo and it usualy ... Well its finally Friday and i've been so excited this week, we are taking the boys to Dreamworld tomorrow!! YIPEE!!!  We haven't told them where we are going yet, just that we are going out for the day so they have no idea, he, he, he! We have done this before with Underwater World and Australia Zoo and it usualy takes them until we get to the carpark to realise where we are!! Eddie and i have so much fun watching them, they get so excited and then they always say "i knew we were going here!" lol.

So we were excpecting some really extra good behaviour the last few days, and they haven't been too bad (for boys anyway!) so off to school they went this morning, "yes Mum our rooms are clean and tidy". Yeah their rooms weren't too bad so i gave them my usual once over to straighten things up. Started the vac, did the bedrooms and was just about to do the tiles in their toilet and "YUCK!" one of them has wee'd all over the floor on one side and on my nice plant that lives in there. I'm so not impressed!! Yes they are boys and we do get the occasional drips and splatters on the floor but this was just unbelievable.... I'm so mad at whoever it was, and of course no body will be admiting to it. And here we are all ready to take them someplace special, if our tickets didn't expire this weekend i wouldn't take them (we got a special deal on tickets).

Yeah i've got pms but so what, i've just had to get on my hands and kness and bleach the tiles and wall and plant pot!!! Why do they do this??? Every so often we have the same problem but the mess was so much bigger today, the whole bladder i'm guessing. I'm sure it's one of the twins, he gets side-tracked so easily, but uless i'm there to see it i can't blame anyone. I've suggested that they sit to wee when the get up for their 1st one but that obviously isn't happening. And also i've noticed wee getting under the seat, i don't know how becuase i know they lift the seat to go. Wouldn't you think that at 7 & 8 years they wouldn't do this!! I know that they shouldn't because they never used to do it. Anyway i'm rambling but i'm so mad, its not often that we make plans to do anything on the weekend and now i feel like it's been ruined. I know we'll have a great time but i'm just so sick of the extra work and mess during the week. Yeah i'm a sahm but i've get much better things to do with my time, like be on Minti!

Maggie

Oh and it's ok, my plant survived, i put it in the shower for a while to give it a good clean and a drink of something fresh!!!!  Yes i know we have water restrictions and  so i'll have a shorter shower tonight!

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/722211/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/722211/ Thu, 29 May 2008 17:38:36 -0700 Tired and it's only Tuesday! magenta I've been trying to get on here to Blog for ages but i keep getting caught up on what is happening in everyone else's lives! By the time i've read all your blogs my time is up and i've got to head off to do housework!!! Well just over 2 weeks ago i started on the Mini-Pill, Eddie really gave me no ... I've been trying to get on here to Blog for ages but i keep getting caught up on what is happening in everyone else's lives! By the time i've read all your blogs my time is up and i've got to head off to do housework!!!

Well just over 2 weeks ago i started on the Mini-Pill, Eddie really gave me no option and like i'd said i didn't want to face another miscarriage this year. Even though i think i'm ok about it and have accepted it i'm still feeling a little fragile about things, especially since a few people have mentioned how nice it would be for us to add to the family (i didn't tell anyone except my Mum about what happened). Well all was going fine, our love life was getting back to normal until Sunday when i started spotting which is what some of the symptoms are. But its still going and i'm getting really annoyed with it and also on Sunday night i totally lost the plot with Eddie over who was going to change the kitty litter. I ended up getting that mad i slept on the lounge and that never happens!! In fact Eddie and i rarely fight, yeah we have disagreements like most but not like this. It's left me feeling upset ever since. I'm just feeling so drained of everything this week and really down about a few things. I know i shouldn't becasue really i'm so lucky to have my family, the boys and Eddie. All i want to do is sleep so i thought today i would get all my housework done early so i could have a nap before the boys got home, but i just couldn't!  I'm not a day napping person (wish i was!) so i ended reading and thinking about how nasty i was on Sunday night. Eddie seems to be over it, i hope so because i hate it when we are at odds with each other, especially over something so stupid!

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/720053/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/720053/ Mon, 26 May 2008 23:29:56 -0700 It's Friday!!! magenta Well it turns out i didn't have the flu at all (my last blog) i was indeed pregnant! It wasn't until the next morning that i thought i could've been, and my early period turned out to not be that at all!! And all this after we have been so careful, but i guess it only takes one of those little swimmers!! Well i went ... Well it turns out i didn't have the flu at all (my last blog) i was indeed pregnant! It wasn't until the next morning that i thought i could've been, and my early period turned out to not be that at all!! And all this after we have been so careful, but i guess it only takes one of those little swimmers!! Well i went for a blood test on the Sunday, the doctor (not my usual one) said i most definately was but to come back the next day for the result.  Eddie and i had a big talk about things and even though we were both stunned, especially since the miscarriage being not so long ago, we were happy and he was really excited!! Well i went back for my results and had to see another doctor, neither my regular doctor or the one i saw the day before were available. I ended up with a really rude lady doctor  who said that the blood test indicated that i was either only just pregnant or the baby had died inside of me. Well i was so upset and furious i didn't know what to say. Then she told me to come back in a week for another one to work out which it was. I left in tears, rang Eddie who swore really badly and said he should've come with me and given her a piece of his mind! Because i had all the symptoms and feelings(including morning sickness) we decided not to worry too much until the next blood test. Well during last week i had another miscarriage, i went and saw my usual doctor and she confirmed it all. She said that i should let her do a few tests to investigate why i've had the 2 miscarriages this year, but i said not to worry. I didn't tell her that Eddie really didn't want a baby anyway (so he says), even though he seemed more upset this time. Anyways i'm feeling much better this week, still sad and upset but i can accept it better this time i think. Eddie has been great, even though the boys didn't know they seem to have realised something is up with Mum and have been fairly well behaved. Eddie is driving me crazy about the contraception thing though, he knows that the Pill makes me sick and i can't take it and i refuse to get my tubes tied (because i do want another baby), the whole IUD thing is not my cuppa tea and he complains everytime he has to use a condom (lazy bugger!). I've been researching the Mini-Pill today and i think i'll see my doctor about that, i haven't used it before because i was worried about its reliability but i guess its better than nothing. The last thing i want this year is another miscarriage, i just don't think i could handle that again so soon.

Well i'm really looking forward to the weekend, I think the boys are more excited about Mother's Day than i am. They have all got me something from the P&C Mother's Day Stall at school this week and can't wait for me to open the presents. Sunday will be busy visiting my Mum and Eddie's Mum but i'm sure it will be a great day.

To all you Minti Mum's "Happy Mother's Day" !

Maggie

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/705709/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/705709/ Thu, 08 May 2008 23:42:00 -0700 No special dinner..... magenta Well, Eddie is home sometime tonight, and i'm so glad!  I've really missed him this time, well i do miss him when he works away, but just lately i've been missing him more. Only i really don't feel up to much, in fact i just want to go to bed and sleep. But then maybe not, i keep having these ... Well, Eddie is home sometime tonight, and i'm so glad!  I've really missed him this time, well i do miss him when he works away, but just lately i've been missing him more. Only i really don't feel up to much, in fact i just want to go to bed and sleep. But then maybe not, i keep having these horrible dreams that won't leave me alone.  I can't remember the last time i felt so tired, and like utter crap. On top of that i got my "u know whats" early. I was going to cook something special for tea but i've felt sick all day and didn't get anything orgainsed.  I managed to make a nice dessert but i'm not sure what we will have it with.  The boys won't care what they eat as long as they have food, but poor Eddie will be expecting his "special first night home dinner".  Maybe i can put together a pasta dish out of what is in the fridge and cupboard, i haven't been shopping this week so who knows what we'll end up with. Oh well, i guess if thats all i have to worry about then i'm not doing too bad. Hopefully over the long weekend i'll kick this flu for good, well until the next one is carried home from school, lol! Hope you all have a great weekend!

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/691696/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/691696/ Wed, 23 Apr 2008 23:50:54 -0700 I'm a stay at home Mum, do i really have to have an explanation why? magenta I've been a stay at home Mum since my 1st son was born. I had a great job, good money and lots of responsibility (23 staff to look after!) and i really enjoyed my work most days. I worked right up until  2 weeks before Jack was born (he was a week late!), even though i had 24 hour morning sickness. The ... I've been a stay at home Mum since my 1st son was born. I had a great job, good money and lots of responsibility (23 staff to look after!) and i really enjoyed my work most days. I worked right up until  2 weeks before Jack was born (he was a week late!), even though i had 24 hour morning sickness. The staff i worked with were great and really understanding and fully supported me. Not long after i had Jack they asked me to return to work even though i had already told them months before i would not be returning. I finally gave in and returned for about 2mths part-time and i chose what days and hours i worked. Then i found out i was pregnant again and resigned immediately. Those 2 months  that i worked were really hard, i found it really difficult to juggle a baby, husband, housework and work. We had always agreed that i would stay home until the children were in high school or i was ready to re-enter the workforce. I was so not ready!!

Now that the boys are at primary school i've often thought about going back to work but when i sort out the figures its not worth it financially for us. On top of that Eddie sometimes works away for extended periods so even doing night jobs are out. Also i wonder how i would cope, i really don't think i could keep up with it all. And i actually enjoy being at home, having a clean house, baking, having meals ready when Eddie gets home and basically making life easy for my 3 boys and my big one. We always have our clothes washed and ironed, nobody is ever looking for something to wear because its there when they need it. Or anything else for that matter, i'm "Mrs Organisation" in this house! When the boys get home from school i have everything done so i can spend time with them doing homework or taking them to tennis or dance lessons. And i try to do as little housework on the weekend as possible so that we can all enjoy sometime together.

Most days i'm flat out until about 12pm doing general housework and washing, then i have my lunch while watching Dr Phil. I start my folding and ironing when Oprah comes on, yeah i'm a sucker for those shows! Usually by the time i finish its time to go and pick the boys up from school. I have started at the gym to try and get my fitness levels up a bit so those days i have to rearrange my chores a bit and i watch Dr Phil & Oprah there! So there you have it, i don't even think i could fit a job in!

So here is my grievance (thats if you are still reading and not asleep!). Whenever i meet people or catch up with old friends why do they ask "What do you do?" or "Where do you work?" because then i feel like i have to explain myself to them. Sometimes i wish i had it tattoed on my forehead so they wouldn't bother asking! I have so much regard for Mum's that work but i'm not one of them and have no wish to be at this stage in my life. I know i just couldn't cope. I love being a SAHM!

So why am i made to feel bad about not working outside of the house??

Don't i do enough in the house??

And should i feel bad about enjoying looking after my family? Even though i do complain sometimes i wouldn't have it any other way. I am the "BOSS" and i love it!

Maggie

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/688140/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/688140/ Sun, 20 Apr 2008 17:58:49 -0700 Unbelievable! magenta Can you believe it, i had the 3 boys home sick yesterday. I'm so tired, i tried to sleep in this morning but was up at 5am as usual, then went back to bed for an hour. I decided to cook breakfast this morning for us all and probably will in the moring too. We usually only do it on Sunday's ... Can you believe it, i had the 3 boys home sick yesterday. I'm so tired, i tried to sleep in this morning but was up at 5am as usual, then went back to bed for an hour. I decided to cook breakfast this morning for us all and probably will in the moring too. We usually only do it on Sunday's but Eddie is off  away for work next week so i thought i'd treat us all and its really the only time we all have together is at mealtime. Then i don't know why but i decided to do some baking, so cheesecake, biscuits, choc slice and choc fruit balls are on the menu for the next few days, lol! I'll pack Eddie some to take with him but i think the boys and i will end up eating the most of it all.

Well apart from the boys trying to kill each other they all seem to be on the mend, bloody hope so! I really need to get a few things done next week while they are at school. Sometimes i wonder how i ever managed when they were little and at home 24/7, i guess you just do. Well i've gotta go and cut the choc slice up - the boys are hanging around waiting for some.

Have a great day!                      Maggie

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/686439/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/686439/ Fri, 18 Apr 2008 21:47:36 -0700 Still sick.... magenta Well we are nearing the end of a 3rd week with what started with a head cold and has now turned into asthma and bronchitis for Tommy, and yes he'll be home until next week now - bugger. I hate him missing school but i refuse to send my boys to school sick. I wish some of the other parents ... Well we are nearing the end of a 3rd week with what started with a head cold and has now turned into asthma and bronchitis for Tommy, and yes he'll be home until next week now - bugger. I hate him missing school but i refuse to send my boys to school sick. I wish some of the other parents felt the same!! Jack had tonsilitis over the hols and was back to the doctor yesterday with it again but luckily we caught it straight away and he is back at school. I know the signs now and i'll never let him get as sick as he did with it again. And fingers crossed Billy hasn't been sick and hopefully won't catch anything for a while. I've almost forgotten what its like to have time alone..... My parents were here over the weekend and Eddie and i got a nice night out, i really enjoyed it but a bit of sleep would've been nicer! I had almost forgotten what its like to live on no sleep, but its been a good reminder. And even though i'm so tired i still think having another baby wouldn't kill me!!

Thanks to you members who responded to my last blog, and certainly no thanks to the sneaky member/members who are trying to ruin this site. Maybe admin will realise some of Minti's great members are getting voted down and do something about it, maybe not. I've decided its not going to stop me any longer, there are so many people on this site that are helpful and caring. And its good to know that you aren't alone on your bad and good days, even when you don't need a response!! LOL  I do wonder why these people don't make up their own site, then they can behave how they like.....maybe they aren't smart enough.

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/684072/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/684072/ Wed, 16 Apr 2008 20:50:34 -0700 Some people are strange! magenta Even though it may seem like I don't use this site much i'm usually on here every second day, catching up on the gossip and lives of a few of you special members. I would really like to leave comments on your blogs, add you as friends and put my bit in the Q&A, but i've always felt that with the attitude ... Even though it may seem like I don't use this site much i'm usually on here every second day, catching up on the gossip and lives of a few of you special members. I would really like to leave comments on your blogs, add you as friends and put my bit in the Q&A, but i've always felt that with the attitude of some of the members its just not worth the stress!  And today I was reading one members blog and it was very disheartening to see that some members are voting her down. I don't even understand how this is allowed, unless there is offensive content (i've never seen any on her blog!). Is there anyway of avoiding this? Or is it just part of the price you pay to have contact with other members? I'd really like to become part of the community but i wonder if it really is worth it or should i just lay low? I'm starting to feel like a stalker, lol, just kidding!!! Seriously i'm not stalking you!

Oh and I know after my last blog I may not seem very friendly but I am. I just didn't want any of those nasty ones getting back to me and making me feel worse than I did.

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/682029/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/682029/ Tue, 15 Apr 2008 00:27:41 -0700 Feeling low... magenta Well i'm on here to vent today, i don't expect any responses just needed to say my bit in the hopes it may make me feel better. My partner and i decided that we might start to try for another baby sometime and just when i was ready to get going with the idea he had backed off. Well i ... Well i'm on here to vent today, i don't expect any responses just needed to say my bit in the hopes it may make me feel better. My partner and i decided that we might start to try for another baby sometime and just when i was ready to get going with the idea he had backed off. Well i was really upset about it for a couple of months and had just started to accept that it wouldn't happen and then i had an early misscarraige. I had only just started to feel like i may have been pregnant and was about to go and get a preg test when it all went wrong. Even though it wasn't planned i'm still feeling the loss of what might have been. I've been having problems ever since and have had every test the doc can think of but i'm still having pregnancy feelings which is making it even harder for me.

We were only using the withdrawal method (his choice) and i had said that if he really didn't want a baby he should get the "snip". Well that didn't go down well at all! Anyway, so now we are back to using condoms which he hates and our love life has just about dissapeared. He is still loving and seems to want to have sex but its just not happening. We love each other very much and he has been very supportive but i think he was relieved with what happened. I'm not, now more than ever i want another baby. I feel like that may have been my only chance to have another one and now there may not be another. He keeps giving me what he thinks are good reasons not to have another, none of these are financial as we have money. Our house is more than big enough to fit another 2 kids in! lol We would have to get a bigger car but that isn't an issue as we have already dicussed that and are planning on getting a bigger one anyway. Our 3 boys would love to have another sibling.

The only problem i can think of is that he is worried that i won't have the time to spoil him like i do, that is getting up and making his lunch before he goes to work and the usual housework, having tea ready when he gets home, all of which i enjoy doing. Even though i kept up with things when i had the other 3 and he knows it!  I'm just feeling so down about it, i've tried to talk to him but i can never find the right words without getting upset. I'm going to try again tonight but maybe i should be happy with what i've got and get on with life.

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/662987/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/662987/ Wed, 26 Mar 2008 18:44:31 -0700 Never doing that again.... magenta Well i'm back so i guess that means i made it, not entirely in one peice though, lol! As a reward for a frustrating day my couple of glasses of wine went down very well, some chocolates would've topped it off though. Let me just say that next year i am definately ordering all the boys school stuff through the ... Well i'm back so i guess that means i made it, not entirely in one peice though, lol! As a reward for a frustrating day my couple of glasses of wine went down very well, some chocolates would've topped it off though. Let me just say that next year i am definately ordering all the boys school stuff through the local newsagency - i will NEVER do what i did today again. I'm sure the last couple of years of school supplies buying has never been so stressful, i had such a great plan, went to a large shopping centre thinking within all those shops i'd eventually get all i needed. I was so wrong! At least the boys were reasonably well behaved. Now i just have to cover all those damn books! That will have to be a next week job cause' i'm so over it all atm.

]]> http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/607214/ http://www.minti.com/members/magenta/blog/607214/ Fri, 18 Jan 2008 04:12:10 -0800 School Books - Yucko! magenta   Well i'm off to get school books this morning, how wonderful - NOT!  Worse thing is i was hoping my Mum could have the boys so i could go by myself but she didn't offer so i didn't ask!  Seems like weeks since i've had any time to myself - hey! - thats right, it has been weeks, in fact ALL hols. Even though ...  

Well i'm off to get school books this morning, how wonderful - NOT!  Worse thing is i was hoping my Mum could have the boys so i could go by myself but she didn't offer so i didn't ask!  Seems like weeks since i've had any time to myself - hey! - thats right, it has been weeks, in fact ALL hols. Even though the hols haven't been too bad i think the boys and i have spent way too much time together and the fact that it has rained most days since Chrissy hasn't helped.  But i just know how i'll be feeling by the time we all get home from the shops, after hours of searching for the right books, and hours of "i'm hungry" even though i'll feed them up before we go.  Oh, and them telling me what they really need for school that the teachers apparently forgot to put on the list, lol, like extra textas and the coolest looking book coverings (always the most expensive!) etc. I'm not sure which i'll be in need of most, a mental hosptital visit or a stiff drink - have just checked and its ok there is plenty of wine available, something to look forward to! I'm just hoping that if i get to the shops early enough i can be back well in time for lunch and a rest before some much needed housework needs to be done. Well in case i don't make it and i do end up in a staight jacket, thanks for reading what may or may not be the first and last Blog i attempt on Minti.

Cheers

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