DON'T STRESS EVERY CHILD GOES THROUGH THIS ENTIRE PHASE OF BEING COMPLETLY ENTHRALLED WITH THE OPPOSITE BIT'S & PIECES!

JUST TELL HER THE TRUTH! LET HER JUST KNOW THAT BOY'S HAVE PENISES & GIRLS HAVE VAGINA'S! (I THINK DOOD IS A REALLY CUTE TERM TO USE ESPECIALLY AT 4!)

HANG IN THERE! SHE SOUNDS ADORABLE!

ABC Books have a great collection of books on a whole of subjects that help parents approach certain subjects with their children, maybe worth looking into if your so uncomfortable in telling her.

I wish you well sweetie, be honest with her.

My daughter has seen me naked, but not my partner.

She knows the name for the girl bits but up until now we have not bothered to mention anything about the male anatomy because she hadn't asked so i never bothered. My main concern is that she will ask someone else if they have a dood and i am just unsure how to deal with that situation.

Thanks once again.

Don't make a big deal of it because kids have a sense for things that sound like no go zones it only makes them more curious.

Be matter of fact ! Use the same tone that you would when explaining anything else she might ask.

Perhaps try " it's not a dood it's a penis and boys have a penis, girls have a vagina, so you and mummy have a vagina and daddy has a penis" .

kepp it simple and honest ! Kids sem to have a radar for parents trying to avoid a topic. Of course you don't have to go into great detail at 4 , but neither should you try avoiding it either.

Perhaps use the discussion to say to her your vagina is a private part and we don't talk about it outside the house. But you can come and tell mummy and daddy if anyone touches your vagina because mummy and daddy would like to know if that happens.

it's not too early to give her the tools to help keep her safe !

At three, my son doesn't really get the idea of manners (he's starting to do polite things as told, but doesn't understand why), but at four, my older son does, and can be taught what is good manners and what isn't.  If you tell your daughter that it's not manners to talk about those things to other people, because they might be uncomfortable, she might understand.  I'd not make it a taboo topic at home, but help her to see the difference in at home talk and out/visiting talk.  Also, don't get flustered or upset when she does ask about it, because that will make it a game for her.  Keep it matter-of-fact, short and sweet, only answer what she asks and don't elaborate, or you may give her more ammunition.  The rest of that conversation can be had as she grows and when you decide she's ready for it.

If she asks if you have a "dood" then just say No, mummy is a girl..  Girls don't have "doods".  If she asks you partner just have him reply.  Yes, Daddy is a boy, Daddy has a "dood".  If you can it is probably better to teach her the correct words too..  Penis and Vagina.

Just remain calm and always answer the same.  If you seem flustered she will continue for longer because she will be able to sense your discomfort.  (not to be mean, she may not realise it's discomfort).