Minti - Recent Comments on Question "What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back?" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back?" Copyright 2008 Minti en-uk What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? Tink1976 Hooray, so glad to hear that things are on the mend, i hope you have a good evening and that it will be the first of many and I hope that things in the bedroom get back on par, please keep in touch. Hooray, so glad to hear that things are on the mend, i hope you have a good evening and that it will be the first of many and I hope that things in the bedroom get back on par, please keep in touch.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306336 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306336 Wed, 01 Nov 2006 04:09:49 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? Considering Looks like you've got to an answer. From reading your comments, the only thing I would add is that maybe he's thinking the same thing as you. Maybe he feels like the kids are now the priority and that you don't have time for him. Maybe ask him face to face what he's feeling...you may besurprised...it may be exactly what ... Looks like you've got to an answer. From reading your comments, the only thing I would add is that maybe he's thinking the same thing as you. Maybe he feels like the kids are now the priority and that you don't have time for him. Maybe ask him face to face what he's feeling...you may besurprised...it may be exactly what your feeling too!

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306339 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306339 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 22:36:57 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? blinkfink182 Good to hear.  I'm hoping the best for you. http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306338 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306338 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 21:24:11 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? Jessgore I wish you lots of luck... Sounds like your off to a good start..... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306337 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306337 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 21:09:02 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? monyq83 Thanks blink, funny you should say that, we actually had a civil talk via sms earlier and we decided that tonight were gonna do absolutely nothing other than spend quality time with the kids and once they're in bed, ALONE! We are going to go out for dinner (so much for my cabbage diet, its gonna have to go on ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306335 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306335 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 20:22:59 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? blinkfink182 Well, you said you wanted input from the males, so hopefully this may help. Personally, my wife & I never really had trouble getting back into the "swing" of things.  However, I know that as much as raising a child is rough on you ladies, its tough on the guys too.  Problem is, we usually never tell you that we feel ...
Personally, my wife & I never really had trouble getting back into the "swing" of things.  However, I know that as much as raising a child is rough on you ladies, its tough on the guys too.  Problem is, we usually never tell you that we feel that way.  We're usually trying to be strong for you all.  Try just taking him out for a night of what he likes.  Whether its going to the bar to watch sports, or watching a "blow-stuff-up" movie, whatever he enjoys.  For me, that always relaxes me and gets my head straight.  Hope this helps.  Raising a kid is hard enough without the marital problems.  ]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306349 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306349 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 19:39:49 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? peachynowamum maybe even seek marriage counselling? http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306348 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306348 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 15:47:46 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? peachynowamum get him to see a doctor a mans sex drive can disappear for a number of reasons http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306347 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306347 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 15:45:54 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? monyq83 ***SIGHS*** Ok, I know its not the fact that hes too afraid, because we were back in the sack a week after my son was born and that was 6mths ago. So its not that. Ive tried dressing sexy, not slutty, and conservative all at the same time, and he goes and calls me a 'posh bitch' because im not in ... ***SIGHS*** Ok, I know its not the fact that hes too afraid, because we were back in the sack a week after my son was born and that was 6mths ago. So its not that.

Ive tried dressing sexy, not slutty, and conservative all at the same time, and he goes and calls me a 'posh bitch' because im not in a pair of tracky dacks and a baggy tshirt.

Ive tried everything. Alcohol, toys, a night out without the kids, you name it ive tried it. And yesterday Id had jack of it and totally blew my nut at him and we had the most massive argument ever. And you know what? I still dont have an answer from him!

Last night as a way to apologise, I asked him if he wanted to watch a movie together when the kids went to bed, and I tried cuddling up to him and actually had to grab his arm and put it around me coz he wouldnt do it by himself. He used to be such a loving and kind person, and now all i feel is coldness coming from him.

And then this morning I get a txt msg from him, saying that he wants to make love tonight, so I wrote back saying are you doing this because you want to or because i want to? And he replied with 'both' anyway we got to talking and i really feel like he is only offering to make love tonight to shut me up and i really dont want to have to do it if his heart's not in it. I really thought he loved me but now im starting to doubt it. Im so upset!

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306346 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306346 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 15:16:11 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? peachynowamum I know what works with my hubby but I can't say it here! I will say I had the same problem after i had my daughter but thats because after watching the labor he was afraid he would hurt me or it wouldnt be the same but after he reliased it was pretty much safe and it was still the same ... I know what works with my hubby but I can't say it here!

I will say I had the same problem after i had my daughter but thats because after watching the labor he was afraid he would hurt me or it wouldnt be the same but after he reliased it was pretty much safe and it was still the same or similar it was no problem!

Also have you tried spicing it up? Role playing, cream and strawberries or fire and ice even toys and costumes just for fun can sometimes make a difference.

Ask him what his fantasies are and maybe take turns trying each others fantasies?

There are many books out there about how to spice it up.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306342 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306342 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 12:05:31 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? markylou03 i've been going through the same, it happened when i was still pregnant, i went on a shopping spree, i bought clothes that made me feel sexy, i went home waited for my man to return, with a BIG smile. Being pregnant you don't feel attractive, so SHORT skirts and nice maternity tops made my man feel more attractive. If that's not ... i've been going through the same, it happened when i was still pregnant, i went on a shopping spree, i bought clothes that made me feel sexy, i went home waited for my man to return, with a BIG smile.

Being pregnant you don't feel attractive, so SHORT skirts and nice maternity tops made my man feel more attractive.

If that's not you maybe try going out for dinner or lunch, just the two of you like you's probably did before kids. Men get so caught up with work and we are working plus keeping the family together, we lose sight of each other the best way i found was remember how you got him and do it again, if it worked the first time it will win back his soul.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306341 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306341 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 11:53:25 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? Tink1976 Talk to him ( and I don't mean dirty), He may not relise how you feel? He may not even be aware of the problem (after all he is a man!) Set aside some time when there will be no distractions and be honest and up front and ask him to be the same. http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306350 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306350 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 05:52:30 -0800 from the other side upinchina Well, I remember the first 3 months after giving birth with our 2 girls, and it was I who was not in the mood. This is how I felt, that my best friend had just seen me inside and out, and wow, our relations had produced a human--we don't want another one right away, I was scared. Maybe that is what ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306340 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306340 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 05:41:19 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? leannec Hi, Confidence goes a long way. Don't seem upset or agitated by the situation. Dress concervatively not provocative. Not entirely conservative but look nice,  and be upbeat. Sometimes the obvious (eg. dressing sexy )is not the answer. He may be looking for a soul mate not a conquest. It also puts you on the upper side since you don't look like ... Hi,

Confidence goes a long way. Don't seem upset or agitated by the situation. Dress concervatively not provocative. Not entirely conservative but look nice,  and be upbeat. Sometimes the obvious (eg. dressing sexy )is not the answer. He may be looking for a soul mate not a conquest. It also puts you on the upper side since you don't look like you are trying to attract him, or not attract him. Keep him guessing.l

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306343 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306343 Tue, 31 Oct 2006 03:50:13 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? Jessgore It is hard to try and answer this one with out details as such.. For example are you both in the mood at different times?  Are you saying that you don't feel he loves you any more? If it is just a case of your moods not being in the same place at the same time, maybe you should start out ... It is hard to try and answer this one with out details as such.. For example are you both in the mood at different times?  Are you saying that you don't feel he loves you any more?

If it is just a case of your moods not being in the same place at the same time, maybe you should start out by giving in to him a few times. I found this helpped.. Because the more you get the more you want and eventually we got back into the swing of things....  (I hope this helps.)

As for the love, that one is a little harder...  Maybe a few romantic not touch nights, go out with out the kiddies, take a walk. Make a few dates.. Try starting from the beginning.. I'm sorry I don't really ahve answers for that one...

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306345 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306345 Mon, 30 Oct 2006 17:29:33 -0800 What to do when ur other half keeps knockin u back? cheleinkal God, we must be married to the same guy.  In my hubby's case I think he smokes and drinks too much and it has shot his sex drive in the B---s so to speak. If you work it out let me know, I'm feeling very lonely these days, has been going on for years.
If you work it out let me know, I'm feeling very lonely these days, has been going on for years.]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306344 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/306334/what-to-do-when-ur-other-half-keeps-knockin-u-back//#306344 Mon, 30 Oct 2006 17:24:35 -0800