Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Socially Unacceptable Behaviour" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Socially Unacceptable Behaviour" Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk Socially Unacceptable Behaviour Gypsie lol....just read what I wrote and noticed the typo It should have said....I've recently just read an article about this topic with all the laws and where we stand as parents when things do not go nicely. lol....just read what I wrote and noticed the typo

It should have said....I've recently just read an article about this topic with all the laws and where we stand as parents when things do not go nicely.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#380530 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#380530 Thu, 03 May 2007 04:44:04 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour Gypsie Hi there, Without havng read all the replies..I would like to say.. YES.....there are in fact laws and rules for playground etiquette. I've recently just read an article about this topic with all the laws and where we stand as parents when things go do nicely. I'll type the article up and post it in ADVICE...asap Hi there,

Without havng read all the replies..I would like to say..

YES.....there are in fact laws and rules for playground etiquette.

I've recently just read an article about this topic with all the laws and where we stand as parents when things go do nicely.

I'll type the article up and post it in ADVICE...asap

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#380507 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#380507 Thu, 03 May 2007 04:25:25 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour Aidansmom07 Personally I don't give a damn if I have the right or not to speak to someone else's child.  i dont accept that kind of behaviour from my own child, i try to teach him right from wrong, so what kind of message does it send to him if someone else hurts him and gets away with it.  If the ... Personally I don't give a damn if I have the right or not to speak to someone else's child.  i dont accept that kind of behaviour from my own child, i try to teach him right from wrong, so what kind of message does it send to him if someone else hurts him and gets away with it.  If the other parent handles it, then great but if not, then I will.  And if they don't like it, thats just too bad,  too many people in the world who do not deserve children.

Good luck

sarah

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377403 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377403 Sun, 29 Apr 2007 14:40:25 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour Kellzacar Hi there, Some peple may not like this but I am one of those mums whom doesn't just console my child after another has upset or hurt  them . . . Yep i cuddle my child, I talk to my child, I reassure my child the I get right on up and talk to the other child's parent! I want my children ... Hi there,

Some peple may not like this but I am one of those mums whom doesn't just console my child after another has upset or hurt  them . . . Yep i cuddle my child, I talk to my child, I reassure my child the I get right on up and talk to the other child's parent!

I want my children to know that it's not okay to be bullied and what better way then to teach them by talking to the other parent . . . I've found this works 90% of the time, occasionally there will be a parent that is rude and just plain nasty these are the times when I collect my child and find a better place to play as I don't want my child witnessing adults behaving badly.

Cheers Kellz

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377191 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377191 Sun, 29 Apr 2007 05:24:20 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour 5kids i look after a little 2yo boy once a fortnight and last time i did he bit my son for no obvious reason. now the bite wasnt bad but i still told the dad who then told the mum who was ropeable that her son would do that so she rang me straight away to find out the severity and ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377146 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377146 Sun, 29 Apr 2007 04:15:45 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour astrobeka Excellent advice from everyone here.... I have been in this situation aswell and had no idea the right way to deal with it, so would just remove and comfort my son. Hopefully this is not a situation we will be put in often, but atleast now I have some ideas for dealing with the other child/mother. Thank you. Excellent advice from everyone here....

I have been in this situation aswell and had no idea the right way to deal with it, so would just remove and comfort my son.

Hopefully this is not a situation we will be put in often, but atleast now I have some ideas for dealing with the other child/mother.

Thank you.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377065 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377065 Sun, 29 Apr 2007 01:21:00 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour Tadexpress I believe that we should speak up when something is unacceptable, lets be honest by 5 if they are at school they are going to be told to stop that behaviour and go and sit on the naughty chair. For me I would say "stop that" loudly and firmly and move my child away, you dont need to rant and rave ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377019 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377019 Sun, 29 Apr 2007 00:02:06 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour MummaBear Depending on the age of the child and where it is there are things you can do.  At daycare if I get to daycare in time to see something happen I tell my daughter to go and tell the teacher.  If we're out at playgroup or swimming lessons I will tell Hannah, quite loudly, "tell your friend to stop that ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377000 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#377000 Sat, 28 Apr 2007 22:49:47 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour hermy i have to agree with just about very one here....i feel that we should stick up for our children....we don't have to be nasty because that is unacceptable as well....but i think it's important that we let the other child know he did something wrong that  you don't do that it's not nice....i can say when i first started play ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376976 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376976 Sat, 28 Apr 2007 21:54:58 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour snowntish you don't sound mean, you sound strong and confident... If only I could channel some of your confidence to be able to stand up and do this myself! http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376944 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376944 Sat, 28 Apr 2007 20:43:53 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour mumof2b I think it's such a complicated answer as there are times that I will definately speak up for example; we were at a water park this summer and a younger child tried to push my then 5 year old under the water and there was no mother that i knew of around, well I VERY firmly said "Don't you do that" ... I think it's such a complicated answer as there are times that I will definately speak up for example; we were at a water park this summer and a younger child tried to push my then 5 year old under the water and there was no mother that i knew of around, well I VERY firmly said "Don't you do that" and moved him away from my son. 

But there are times where I am very hesitant to make an issue, mostly in places where you still have to be around the person after the incident and will prob have to see them again. If another child does hurt my child then I usually pick my child and make a fuss and say loud enough for them to hear "oh baby are you okay? did that hurt?" That works most of the time. 

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376943 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376943 Sat, 28 Apr 2007 20:41:28 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour Jessgore I'd speak up.. I would want someone to tell me if my son hurt there child.. How else is he going to learn if I don't teach him.. If it keeps going unseen he will never learn.  Thankfully (that I know of.) I have not had to deal with this yet.. http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376941 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/376921/socially-unacceptable-behaviour//#376941 Sat, 28 Apr 2007 20:41:16 -0700 Socially Unacceptable Behaviour LaRenae My boy is just eighteen months ... so I have not had to deal with this situation head on ... yet. I have had concerns about overly rough play ... But, boys are boys ...haha However, in my opinion it is okay to speak up when another child is purposely hitting, pulling hair, biting, and being mean on purpose. I would ... My boy is just eighteen months ... so I have not had to deal with this situation head on ... yet. I have had concerns about overly rough play ... But, boys are boys ...haha

However, in my opinion it is okay to speak up when another child is purposely hitting, pulling hair, biting, and being mean on purpose. I would expect another parent to speak up regarding my boy if he were acting out like that too. I see absolutely nothing wrong with making another child behave and play nice. Somehow in my heart I feel partially responsible for disciplining a child who is a playmate of my son. I feel like a "referee" for lack of a better word. If either child or both children are being mean, then I feel responsible to step up and rectify the situation.

I definitely feel like we as parents have a right to verbally speak up if another child is harming our own child.

 

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Hugs H xo

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