Minti - Recent Comments on Question "At wits end /please help" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "At wits end /please help" Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk At wits end /please help cheleinkal I'm in agreement with everyone, basically because it is blatently obvious that you my poor love are being taken for granted to the point of being used.  He is also undermining your personal rights (by saying when you can use the computer AND when you have sex (because when he slam bams you after being turned on by some chick ... I'm in agreement with everyone, basically because it is blatently obvious that you my poor love are being taken for granted to the point of being used.  He is also undermining your personal rights (by saying when you can use the computer AND when you have sex (because when he slam bams you after being turned on by some chick on the net...it's not making love, it's blowing his load.)

I don't see how you could go on living like a blow up doll shaped door mat, you are a women first, a wife second and a mother third.  That is to say that when you do not feel good about yourself everything else suffers, when your relationship with your partner is not in good shape, your kids are effected...everything starts with you and your self esteme and filters through growing in love and momentum thats why you love your kids sooo much.

Your hubby sounds like he is becoming a bully in the most spoilt brat and childish and selfish sense of the word.  You both need some marriage counselling.  If you could fix this yourself I'm sure you would have done so by now.  he doesn't respect you so he's not hearing you, he needs a clip upside the head and told whats what by a third party and if he still doesn't get it, you get on....with your life without him before he kills your estem entirely and you are a shell of your true and beautiful delf.

Fight for yourself, YOU ARE WORTH IT!

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389378 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389378 Sun, 13 May 2007 22:30:43 -0700 At wits end /please help peperonimum It looks like a double standard issue here, that really suits his needs. You are not being unreasonable here at all. He does not like you on the computer when he is home or at night, but its ok for him to be on his adult sites to excite him? i think its disrespectful on his part as a husband ... It looks like a double standard issue here, that really suits his needs. You are not being unreasonable here at all. He does not like you on the computer when he is home or at night, but its ok for him to be on his adult sites to excite him? i think its disrespectful on his part as a husband to you, and you have every justified right to not share a bed when hes ready for loving!
You also mentioned that when he does get it, he complains that you didn't fulfill him,- he has even got you there too.He gets moody when he doesn't get it and complains when he does but isn't full filled?
Let him go through his moods and tantrums because thats what children do, so expect to treat him like one. Sorry for sounding harsh but it really makes me want to put in my 2 cents.
Adult movies should be a mutually agreed decision to watch together and to watch on your own with out your spousal approval is a trust violation.
Can you talk to him explaining how this really makes you feel? That it hurts your feelings as a woman to expect to full fill him when he has been watching adult movies without your permission/regard ?
I think if you want to use the computer anytime, you do so and with happiness with a cuppa tea, and i am sure that will get his attention!. If it hurts him, then maybe he can see where you are coming from but it wouldn't measure up to what you have been going through all these years.
ITS NOT YOUR FAULT.!  ]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389159 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389159 Sun, 13 May 2007 18:25:41 -0700 At wits end /please help crystalmoon did this once ........... got divorced and remarried now I  always wonder where the hell the naughty stuff went OOOPS LOL http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389143 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389143 Sun, 13 May 2007 18:01:58 -0700 At wits end /please help iancherine LMAO. My partner and I both have your problem. LOL. Our trouble is just finding the time with all of our kids. At wits end: My suggestion is if he has to look at these sites why not make your own home movie. Let him get turned on by you instead of someone else. I hope you can both work this ... LMAO. My partner and I both have your problem. LOL. Our trouble is just finding the time with all of our kids.

At wits end: My suggestion is if he has to look at these sites why not make your own home movie. Let him get turned on by you instead of someone else. I hope you can both work this out. Cherine.

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389125 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389125 Sun, 13 May 2007 17:37:43 -0700 At wits end /please help mumof1girl I agree with crystalmoon, and let him read what you've written, and talk it over with him. If he doesn't want to listen to you, then just ignore him. I hope everything works out for you very soon. Hugs

I agree with crystalmoon, and let him read what you've written, and talk it over with him. If he doesn't want to listen to you, then just ignore him. I hope everything works out for you very soon. Hugs

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389109 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389109 Sun, 13 May 2007 17:21:57 -0700 At wits end /please help merlin0903 oh sweetie i feel for you as my hubby is the same looking at the sites and the mags and dvds and he too gets moody if he doesn't get his either,  i have found that if i just let him get it off his chest, once he is finished i just say i am going to bed now and ... oh sweetie i feel for you as my hubby is the same looking at the sites and the mags and dvds and he too gets moody if he doesn't get his either,  i have found that if i just let him get it off his chest, once he is finished i just say i am going to bed now and when he is in a better mood then i will think about it,  i to don't like to be pushed on the subject . 

i hope that this has helped in some small way and no you are not alone on this one

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389098 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389098 Sun, 13 May 2007 17:12:20 -0700 At wits end /please help crystalmoon I meant your post not mine ROFLMFAO I meant your post not mine ROFLMFAO]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389096 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389096 Sun, 13 May 2007 17:11:56 -0700 At wits end /please help crystalmoon Why don't you let him read this(on a separate  piece of paper though) surely if he sees how distressed you are he will try and curb his childishness.Men often equate how much sex they get to how much you love them.........I have the opposite prob LOL (I am the one with the man's mind and appetite PMSL) I do sympathize ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389095 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/389085/at-wits-end-please-help//#389095 Sun, 13 May 2007 17:11:07 -0700