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Just wanting thoughts

MummaBear — Tue, 15 May 2007 02:21:26 -0700

I am so strict in the way I want things done with Hannah. If they have sandwiches for lunch instead of a cooked meal, I provide a cooked meal for her. She can have some sandwiches as well, but has to have her hot food. She's not allowed to have biscuits in the afternoon, only fruit. They are given plain biscuits with their fruit in the late afternoon. Hannah's not allowed to have a sleep, unless she is so tired she falls to the bed asleep, then they are not allowed to wake her up. At the same time though I'm very relaxed about things like if she falls and hurts herself (unless it's bad) or if she fights with another child. I'm sure they have a lot to say about me! Also if i'm only working in the morning, she only goes for the time i'm working and no longer. Sometimes she goes at rest time and they don't like it, but if i'm starting work at 11:30 I will take her at 11 and be with her at home before that. They do say things about that, I've heard them, but I also tell them I like to be with my child. I had her, I get to raise her! Childcare workers should not talk that way but it's hard to say anything without causing more trouble in the workplace.

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Becs — Mon, 14 May 2007 21:19:18 -0700

What they said behind my back LOL.... No seriously i did !! I think its terrible for them to be judging anybody, i would talk to the head office its extemely unprofessional.

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MadMel — Mon, 14 May 2007 19:28:07 -0700

People will always bitch and have opinions. I say stay out of it. Dont get involved. They are low people who have nothing better to do than pick apart someone else cos they are so miserable with their own lives.

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lillkatheryn — Mon, 14 May 2007 17:13:43 -0700

It's a shame when people like to talk bad about others, especially when they have never been in that situation. You should mention to your boss because it is breaking a confidentiality rule. If another parent were to over hear that, imagine how much trouble the staff member would be in. The boss sould definantly know what is going on, and I would suggest a group meeting to talk about it...That way no one will feel like they are being singled out and everyone can speak and get it out in the open. For the kids sakes it's not right to talk about their families, especially in front of them. Remind them that they never know who is listening....Children have great hearing, and one child can tell their parents and they in turn tell the family, not right! The boss needs to know that the staff is talking about the families like that...

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Tadexpress — Mon, 14 May 2007 16:54:02 -0700

You are not being overly sensitive they are rude and unprofessional and appraently lacking in basic compassion. You have two opetions you can mention your concerns to the boss or you can walk away. Unpleasantness in the workplace can be very difficult to deal with and if you like your job then my advice is to walk away. I imagine in a childcare centre you can always find something to busy yourself so you dont have to listen to these comments. The alternative is to assert yourself and say when you make comments like that I feel you are being unfair and I would prefer you didnt make those type of comments around me. Society can be very judgemental and hurtful and words can wound deeper than anyotehr physical hurt. Remember if you are a bystander and say nothing you are by your silence agreeing and accepting what they say and encouraging them to believe that you are in agreement with them so take care and hang onto your compassion.

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crystalmoon — Mon, 14 May 2007 14:27:38 -0700

I t is a shame that they are like this......I also feel it is not very professional,unfortunately you could make a rod for your own back in your place of work if you make a stand.Don't get me wrong,I by no means condone their behavior.I am just concerned for you standing in the scheme of things there.I find in the work place there can be a lot of bitchiness,I always try and counteract this by saying positive comments about the poor person whose character is being assassinated eventually your other work mates may also start taking a leaf out of your book.Good luck and good on you for not judging others regards Crystal

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sinhob — Mon, 14 May 2007 10:18:53 -0700

My sister had a problem with the daycare centre her son attends when she witnessed a member of staff manhandling another child. She reported it in confidence to the owner who brought it up at a staff meeting. The issue was resolved and the lady who was being rough hadn't realised that she was being rough until it was pointed out to her. She was horrified and apologised immediately.

My advice is that no, I don't think you are the one with the problem. And, if I was in your shoes I would probably try to get my feelings across by letting them know in a nice way that it's unprofessional, and really none of us can predict our own destiny! "There but for the grace of God go I" is a motto by which I try to curb my judgments of other people.

Perhaps they are young and silly and will get a bit of sense as they grow older, but as someone else pointed out, if word got out about the way these people talk about the parents, they are in danger of destroying the reputation of their workplace and may even lose their jobs as a result!

Is there someone in your workplace who you could speak to about this confidentially? Perhaps then it could be brought up at a future staff meeting without implicating you...

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cheleinkal — Mon, 14 May 2007 08:59:32 -0700

If I was you I'd mention it to the head of the centre. That person needs to be concerned because if any of this got back to that Mother of 7, the fecal matter would hit the fan big time, not to mention all the other people they cruelly gossip about. I'd bring up these points as well. They are gossiping shallow people who are being incredibly unproffessional not to mention possibly puting the centre in the line of fire for future "deffamation of charactor"law suits, becaus ereffering to a 3 times married woman as sleeping around is parramount to calling her a slut and that is deffamation (a lie about her charactor that could have damaging effects).

If you mention all of this I'm sure the opporator (especially if they also own the place) will also realise that is cannot go on and take appropriate action. A new policy needs to be in place.

You are not wrong in feeling the way you are. They are rude and wrong.

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Kellzacar — Mon, 14 May 2007 08:48:50 -0700

OMG . . . . . . I feel so sorry for your work collegues . . What boring lives they must lead.

No honey you are not being too sensitive . . . I strongly feel that what they are saying and doing (talking in front of the kids) is appaulling . . Just because a child cannot speak does not mean they do not understand. My 16 yr old has memories that go back to before she could talk properly . .(scary isn't it)

Maybe you should speak to your boss . . . I have a friend who also works in childcare and she tells me often that girls have been let go because of those types of comments being made and her boss will not tolerate it.

The whole thing makes me want to rethink childcare for my youngest angel . . . .

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shelleyb — Mon, 14 May 2007 07:18:24 -0700

if you feel it is affecting your time at work and you love your job, then you must say something. Dont get involved in the bitchiness, and if you feel a parent is being hard done by i would speak up on her behalf and put across a different point of view for everyone to think about. do this a few times and im sure they will get the message.

as for talking about the parents in front of a child that is a definite no no! you must report that to your superior. ask anyone in a good child care and they will always pull you aside if they have anything to say regarding your child.

i hope all goes well for you and always remember to give off positive critiscism and good kharma will come back to you xxx