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Renting it out

MummaBear — Fri, 18 May 2007 20:25:56 -0700

That's a good idea. My mum doesn't have any room left at her house but it's a really good idea. I might look into the price of 2brm units to rent and rent this house out. I have to live here for 12 months though, you probably know how it works, but if I can get a cheap unit and rent this house out we might be a little better off. Have to think about it. Will talk to real estates next week i think.

Struggling

emmysmum — Fri, 18 May 2007 20:13:59 -0700

hey there, i know what you are going through and you know what i am going through as we talk on MSN....
Is there anyway possible that you would/could consider moving to where your mum is and live in her house and pay her board and have her feed you....thats what the board is for after all! Save youself money and each time the bills come in offer her a little money....
Also with your money that you save, every 2000 you save, perhaps 1000 of that could be put onto your mortgage to cut the interest down.....
Rent your house out, up there full furnished u would get at least 450 to 500 a week! probably more!
its a good means of income sweety, and on top of that you would only need to work a couple of days a week at a supermarket or something, which will allow you more time to spend with your daughter!
I know i have gone off track but it was just my thoughts!
Good luck hun!

struggling?

MadMel — Fri, 18 May 2007 18:22:39 -0700

What? I was saying the obvious answer. Just like when she posted the same question before there is nothing you can do. Either work and feed the family and pay the bills and put the guilt aside, or leave and find another means of income.
Take it the right way and dont jump on everything i say!

Struggling

MummaBear — Fri, 18 May 2007 18:17:46 -0700

I think that's exactly how I feel. I'm looking after other people's kids and doing things with them that I should be doing with my own. Right now we are doing jigsaw puzzles and she's loving it but doesn't get enough of this kind of time. I think it's just hard at times because I have been sick all week, I took Hannah to daycare sick because I'm out of sick days and the child carer at her centre told me she's out of sorts and shouldn't be there. I told her that I have no choice in the matter and she's gotta stay but call if she gets worse. I was also late picking her up twice this week and that adds to it as well. When she's the only one left there and it's closing time it can't be a good feeling for her. I'm sorry for asking this question when a similar one was already asked, i'm just really, really struggling with it this week.

struggling

merlin0903 — Fri, 18 May 2007 18:16:08 -0700

Mel please i don't think that you needed to answer that way, take a step back and think please before you say somthing so someone

Struggling

MadMel — Fri, 18 May 2007 18:07:50 -0700

Ahh either get used to it or leave and find another income.

struggling

August88 — Fri, 18 May 2007 17:34:04 -0700

could you look into family day care or is that not an option for you? I understand completely cause I have been where you are. I am still there as although my boys are in high school they still need me at home I feel but I can't afford to be there. I am an in-home carer so I look after other peoples children at there homes.

My ex-husband didn't help us out either and I was lucky enough to get some public housing as I couldn't get by renting privately. That has given me some breathing space as when you don't work your rent isn't as much. However it is still a struggle bringing up kids on the pension or limited income. I love my job but still wish I could quit when the kids are playing up cause my son has been getting himself in trouble at school and with the police. I do feel guilt that I can look after other peoples kids while my own needs me now so I would love to quit but I think that would be giving my kids the wrong message as we need to work to get money and I would like them to do that.

just an idea

rockclimbr4400 — Fri, 18 May 2007 10:58:47 -0700

Could you not work at a day care where she was in your class? My mom did this with my little sister, she needed to work, but didn't want to leave her with anyone, so she worked in daycare but my sister was in her class. If you have to work, I wouldn't feel guilty, I am going back to work soon, and I understand. But sometimes we have to do things we don't want to do. Maybe make the weekends (days off) with your daughter very special. Do her favorite things, kind of as a reward. I know it is hard, but if you have to do this to survive, then you have to. Everything will work itself out.

trying to cope too

kobesmummy — Fri, 18 May 2007 06:35:17 -0700

hi sweetheart. i really know how you feel. except my stories a little different. my partner and i have decided to change roles, with me working, and my partner being the stay at home dad. this week was my first week away from him ( Kobe, my son). its awfully having to leave him every day. i know daycare is different from staying home with a parent, but its a dillema for me as well. we all have to do things we dont want to.

some suggestions on how to cope? we just have to, in todays world, we just cant live without working, and getting money to pay for food and bills, and to give our little ones the best we can.

I have decided that when i AM home, i spend as much time with kobe as possible ( and darren, but thats a diff story) on saturdays we are planning to go to playgym of a few hours and just have "us" time. perhaps you could try something like this with Hannah? ask her something she would relly love to do, like going to the park, or the library, or somewhere special. and make it a special day, and do it regularly.

its always going to be hard to leave our little treasures, perhaps explain that mummy has to work to get money so you can do special things.

i hope ive made some sense here. its 11.30 and i just got of work half an hour ago, so i hope i havnt just dribbled on. i hope i have provided SOME help ( that was my aim!!! hahah)

anyway, take care and hold in there. you're not alone.

luv jade