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Toddler Taiming by Christopher Green

TwoLittleAngels — Fri, 25 May 2007 01:29:23 -0700

OMG I LOVE THAT BOOK! I got that and the babies on given to me from a friend when I had my first and that is like a toddler bible! Its all so true!! I think every parent should read it!

feeling bad and guilty

August88 — Fri, 25 May 2007 01:21:31 -0700

All the comments you have got are spot on. Kids know how to push the right buttons, hey? Hope you are having a better day today. I am reading a book at the moment by Dr Christopher Green called Toddler Taming. I don't have toddlers but work with them and it has me in stitches. He has written it so well, telling little stories of how differently they think to us adults and how they get us into these battles. Anyway, take care and I hope things are looking up. xxx

grumpy days

rach — Thu, 24 May 2007 17:35:22 -0700

Hi there all,

Dont be /or feel ashamed to have a bad day. EVERYONE has them. If a parent says they never have a bad day with the kids, they are totally full off themselves. (sorry for being so blunt) Isnt it funny that our kids know when we feel like crap, they know how to push just the right buttons. I'm sorry you had a bad day, I hope you have a better day 2day. You are in NO WAY a bad mum! I bet you are an excellent mother to your daughter!!!!! Whenever i have a bad day with the kids. You know what i do --- ring my MUM! she tells me stories about how i used to push her buttons in the same way my kids now do to me. And YES she too got mad/ snappy at the time, then felt guilty for it soon after. Everyone is only human - no-one is the perfect mother. Being a mother is in my mind the hards, most demanding job out. Stick in there, think of all the good moments.

YOU ARE A GOOD MOTHER!!! If you ever need someone to talk to, drop me an email i would be happy to help.

Rach

- im sorry you felt you had to stay anonymous, I have read some really cruel & unthoughful comments under other questions, Everyone needs to think about what they are typing in their comments to questions as its not just words on a page, Its someones feelings on the other end. They are already having a hard time dealing with whatever the problem! Or they wouldnt off wrote in here to get advice. I was taught if you dont have anything nice to say, dont say anything at all!!!!

feeling bad and guilty

llmunchkin — Thu, 24 May 2007 16:45:54 -0700

So you are human - I am sure that there are frayed tempers in every household at the end of a long busy day. Don't feel bad and guilty - kids, just like adults appreciate apologies. When you both have a moment, and aren't in a rush - tell her you are sorry that you got mad the other day, explain that it was a long tiring day, and it is easier for both of you, if you each try be good and helpful to each other - then you have more time for cuddles and smiles.

It sounds to me

crystalmoon — Thu, 24 May 2007 16:35:37 -0700

like you just need to take a deep breath and have a cuppa.......It sounds like you have been dealing with a lot and just had a bad day that clashed with your daughter.None of us are perfect and I know I get fed up with my little demon some days.....You know deep down you are a great Mum,you just need to take time out and look forward to another day. Hugs to you Crystal

feeling bad and guilty

Ngairi — Thu, 24 May 2007 16:07:04 -0700

you are allowed to feel tired and grumpy occassionally. We all do it now and then, we are human beings. Don't be so hard on yourself. Just sit her down and apologise for being grouchy, and explain that sometimes you have a bad day too.

Leisa