I've done an update on my blog here: http://www.minti.com/members/lightbee/blog/401732/The-next-day/

I'll keep my blog up-to-date on this as best I can as things unfold. 

Thank you all so much for your support and advice and good wishes and prayers.  It all means so much and really has been helping me to keep afloat right now. 

Sorry this isn't advice i've not been here long and wouldn't know who on earth to talk too. My point is though is how amazed i am of all the help and support there is here. I have a little girl and it's terrifying what your going through and i hope all the help your getting is keeping you strong.

You all make me proud to be female and a minti chick, when the chips are down you really pull together.

Hang in there and i really hope your little one is doing well. I sent much supoort to you and your family. x

You are indeed an A1 Mummy.  On the ball and dilligent.  I hope you have time this week to sit down and pat yourself on the back a bit.  I think we are all very proud of you.

pat pat pat

stacey

good luck with the school tomorrow

You'll be pleased to know that the sexual assault unit took things seriously and have just been here taking a statement.  They said this would be considered serious in the range of  complaints and they now report it to Family Services - who they think will also take it very seriously - and talk to the school and talk to the kid and the kid's family who did it.  They explained there are no criminal charges with a child that age (not that I'm wanting that) but they have the same concerns you guys do that he may be being interfered with as well and want to investigate it.

They are also going to put me in touch with a service called Supportlink and have given me a job number and lots of police stuff like that.  The girl police officer was just fantastic and so understanding.  Really glad they sent her.  I'll also talk to the school tomorrow. 

My little girl seems fairly unfazed by it all, thank goodness.  She's gone to sleep quite happily tonight.  Of course, she may end up thinking about it differently in the future, but I guess we'll deal with that then.  Just as long as it never happens again.

Thank you so much to you all for being so supportive and wonderful.  I know this isn't the end, but I hope at least its the end for tonight.

I work in childcare and we recently had a similar situation which ended with two very hurt families as the child invovled named the wrong child as she was also young and it caused much distress. I would see a child phsycologist and get them to speak to her about the incident. Good luck. Please don't feel that I am defending the boy, I am not, however these situations can be so delicate.

good luck let us no what happens

stacey

I totally agree with everyone's advice, except  i think this matter should be dealt with tonight by experts. Dont they say the earlier these sort of cases are dealt with, the better  especially as far as evidence goes.

I would be ringing another police station until you got   someone out to see you & your daughter from S.V.U..

My thoughts & love are with you both.

Janice

the other thing that you could do is maybe call another station or call social services i think that they have a 24hr hotline ....

all i could find was a web site

http://www.ncoss.org.au/

http://www.community.nsw.gov.au/html/about/about.htm

try these and see i hope that this helps

please keep us updated

I rang the police.  The guy on the phone listened to what I told him (what I've already told you guys) and his answer was "What do you want us to do about it?".  I was just livid!  Am I supposed to be telling them their job!  I got quite upset and so the guy on the phone starting going "Don't raise your voice at me".  I am just so upset.  In the end I think I cried enough that he started feeling guilty and started trying to make nice a bit.  He's told me that he will alert the Sexual Assault unit but there's probably noone on duty tonight. 

I haven't taken her to the doctor as I know something of what they do with those sexual assault kits and I wouldn't want to put my daughter through that unless it was absolutely necessary.  She seems in good spirits and she said she's not sore anymore.  I haven't been questioning her.  Been very conscious that how I react will affect her.  But at the same time I don't want to react in a way that makes her think its okay by me.  It is so not.

Tomorrow I am going to talk to the head of the early learning school and take it from there.  I just hope she will take me seriously and do something about this. 

I agree with all here, contact all the authorities you need to, to have it dealt with.

My thoughts are with you and your little girl.

Shelley

If this was my daughter heads would be rolling no one would ever touch my daughter in anyway

I feel for you so much and would  hate to be in your situation

Do what you feel is best but i think that what all members are saying needs to be done

i cant even imagine how you are feeling. I would go to the police, as this is not normal, he obviously has had it done to himself. Be strong in front of your girl, as you dont want her to think your mad or upset with her. Good luck. My prayers and thoughts are with you xxx

Natz

Sweetie this is just terrible.  As your daughter does not seem to have been emotionally affected by it, (she calmy told you what happened), I would try to sheild your daughter from your distress you don't want her to develope a guilt over your distress.

I'd go to the police right now, the centre will have to wait.  take tomorrow off work and have someone you trust lwatch your daughter at home for the day, you will be busy.  This is jsut a parents worst night mare.  I feel so terrible that you are having to go through this.  Hugs for you all.

i hope that she is ok and i hope that this has helped a little