Minti - Recent Comments on Question "burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child)" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child)" Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk Re: burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child) skylee All you ladys, please feel free to come and join our group called WOMAN (with out mums and nans) always helps to talk to some one who knows what your going through>> Take care. Also, with the costs of funerals there are always charities that help , The Salvo's done my mothers service Free of charge and it was very very nice. Skylee All you ladys, please feel free to come and join our group called WOMAN (with out mums and nans) always helps to talk to some one who knows what your going through>>

Take care.

Also, with the costs of funerals there are always charities that help , The Salvo's done my mothers service Free of charge and it was very very nice.

Skylee

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#415490 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#415490 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 21:02:35 -0700 Re: burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child) skylee That was so nive what you wrote, (wiping away my tears) you should come visit our group called WOMAN its for mothers who have lost there mothers Your such a sweety writing that and , its so so so true.. Skylee That was so nive what you wrote, (wiping away my tears) you should come visit our group called WOMAN its for mothers who have lost there mothers

Your such a sweety writing that and , its so so so true..

Skylee

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#415480 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#415480 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 20:56:51 -0700 Re: burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child) blackwidowkate Hi When my mum got sick with cancer the first thing I did was talk to her about what she wanted. The rest of the family thought I was being heartless and uncaring and could not understand why I was doing it. It was my way of coping knowing that after her death I had no way of knowing how I ... When my mum got sick with cancer the first thing I did was talk to her about what she wanted.
The rest of the family thought I was being heartless and uncaring and could not understand why I was doing it.
It was my way of coping knowing that after her death I had no way of knowing how I would be.
She wanted a no service no attendance funeral and then to be cremated.  As she said most people didn't come to see her in life why should they in death.  She also knows that I didn't want to go to a funeral.
She died a week later.  I was able to do everything she wanted to lay her to rest all bar the fact i still have her ashes with me. 
Haven't felt settled enough to put them under a rose bush like she wanted.
Still wonder if shes annoyed at me lol cause she was claustrophobic.

As for not taking your child to meet her..how will YOU feel after she has gone.  Don't have regrets because they will play on your mind forever.

Those who have a mother
Cherish her with care
For you will never know her value
Til you see her vacant chair

These are my thoughts only
Luv Deb]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#415241 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#415241 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 14:25:36 -0700 Re: burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child) Ngairi Do you know what your mother would like. After my MIL died in a car crash and we organised that funeral, I sat down and had a discussion with my parents as to what they would like for their funerals. Their opinions were quite eye opening. Mum has practically the whole service planned out...just in case we do something she won't ... Do you know what your mother would like. After my MIL died in a car crash and we organised that funeral, I sat down and had a discussion with my parents as to what they would like for their funerals. Their opinions were quite eye opening. Mum has practically the whole service planned out...just in case we do something she won't like! You could open the conversation with something along the lines of "the flood got me thinking about things. I would like to know what you would like etc".

If you can't make the trip, make sure you talk to her daily on the phone. Let her know you would like to catch up so that she can meet her grandson and son in law, after things calm down a little.

Leisa

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#414979 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#414979 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 06:08:11 -0700 Re: burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child) llmunchkin I have to say that Tracy has given you great advice, if you are able to, I would follow it up.  If you think that there is even a remote chance that you will feel guilty about not visiting her and taking the baby to see her before she dies - then go.  You can't turn back the clock once ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#414955 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414919/burying-your-mother-not-a-parenting-question-but-one-from-a-child//#414955 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 05:52:05 -0700 Re: burying your mother (not a parenting question but one from a child) bittenbythelovebug The best thing you can do is encourage your mum to sort out her affairs (supper, insurance, loans etc) and give you enduring power of  attorney. That way, if she is incapable of looking after herslf, you will be able to sort things out for her. If she hasn't written a will get her to do it now.  If you ... The best thing you can do is encourage your mum to sort out her affairs (supper, insurance, loans etc) and give you enduring power of  attorney. That way, if she is incapable of looking after herslf, you will be able to sort things out for her. If she hasn't written a will get her to do it now.  If you have any siblings, a will wil stop any dramas.

I have the benefit of hindsight in telling you this, but I would take the baby and go and see her before it's too late. I regret not visiting my mum sooner, for me it was too late....I was the last to know and flew to sydney but she died before I got there. So, I got to see her, just not alive. It was awful.

I'm not quite sure what else to say except that i'm feeling for you. Please minti mail me if you need any support or have any other questions about this. Tracey xx

 

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