Minti - Recent Comments on Question "discipline again" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "discipline again" Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk Re: discipline again shelleyb thank you so much.... i will sit Jack down tonight and have a good talk to him. as i said it has been causing friction between my husband and I to the extent of near separation, but that is not an option. i appreciate your thoughts    have a lovely day thank you so much.... i will sit Jack down tonight and have a good talk to him.

as i said it has been causing friction between my husband and I to the extent of near separation, but that is not an option.

i appreciate your thoughts    have a lovely day

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#416468 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#416468 Wed, 13 Jun 2007 21:07:08 -0700 Re: discipline again Robynyum This sound like a frustrating situation for all involved. If any one confronted me about every little thing my sister dobbed me in for I would probably react just like Jack and would regard my sister as the worst person ever. Time to sit down and focus on what is good about Jack and the three year old.  Can he ... This sound like a frustrating situation for all involved. If any one confronted me about every little thing my sister dobbed me in for I would probably react just like Jack and would regard my sister as the worst person ever. Time to sit down and focus on what is good about Jack and the three year old.  Can he list good things about himself? Most children don't want to be miserable but they get that way when they feel cornered. Sit with him and help him list his good qualities and then the bad things he does - making sure that this isn't who he is - it is just some of the things he does that you would prefer he didn't. Then take the bad things and make a list of the opposites like truth and the advantages truth brings. Sad and miserable compared to happy and loving. Help him learn what he can do right. There is an old saying 'what we focus on we get more of'. Your little girl will benifit by finding out what is the opposite of dobbing - supporting nice behaviours and gaining friendship. Good luck with focusing on the positives.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#415659 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#415659 Wed, 13 Jun 2007 00:36:00 -0700 Re: discipline again shelleyb thanks Leisa, that sounds about right with my son....since his sister was born (shes nearly 3) he has changed so much.  Attention seeking and not listening and back chatting etc etc i will try and talk to him when he is calm and show a little more attention to him as he feels his sister never gets into trouble! thanks again  ... thanks Leisa, that sounds about right with my son....since his sister was born (shes nearly 3) he has changed so much.  Attention seeking and not listening and back chatting etc etc

i will try and talk to him when he is calm and show a little more attention to him as he feels his sister never gets into trouble!

thanks again  have a lovely day 

shelley

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#415477 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#415477 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 20:54:16 -0700 Re: discipline again Ngairi Sounds like my 14 yr old. He would lie about what side of the bed he got up on (and there is only one choice). I find he will do it when his self-esteem is esp low, usually from being teased or bullied at school a little. Can't give you any advice on how to handle it tho, apart from ... http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#414993 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/414962/discipline-again//#414993 Tue, 12 Jun 2007 06:19:41 -0700