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Re: Feeling really, really depressed

rachelcook — Thu, 14 Jun 2007 08:46:53 -0700

Firstly, you are a mom, a wonderful women to be doing this most amazing miracle. now having said that, you feel all these weird crazy emotions. My remedy was to pamper, whatever works for you, pregnancy massage, walks, something that relieves the reminders of aliments. My cousin had gestational diabetes and she is fine and the baby is fine (now 8 years old). I signed up to prenatal aqua classes and you know what it was the only time being weightless in the water I felt myself. So you are amazing your body is doing amazing things, look after your soul and your body will relax. I put on 20kgs and managed to curb my eating in the last month. My son still got stuck. I realize now you can manage life, but you cant avoid things, but face them with a gritty smile, and a truck load of support - Minti is here for YOU!!!

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

cheleinkal — Thu, 14 Jun 2007 08:03:21 -0700

I just want to clarify that her bub was NOT still born...she was born, still....alive and presumabley kicking....sorry, just read it and it sounded funny. xo

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

MummaBear — Thu, 14 Jun 2007 01:53:47 -0700

There's a lot of emphasis on what we should/shouldn't eat while pregnant and breastfeeding. That's not a good diet to be on, but changing things now will only help matters. I had the worst diet! Being sick the entire pregnancy I lived off toast with vegemite on it, and water. Most of it didn't stay down but some must have. I was induced early with mine as I was losing weight too rapidly and she was still born 7lb 8oz so it didn't seem to harm her. Just do what the doctors say and it should all be ok now.

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

luckyone — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 12:58:15 -0700

I agree with what the other members have said here , your not killing your baby all . You been to the doctors and you know what to do now . As far as your parter goes i think he is totalyy wrong of him to this to you .

If he going to reacted like this now how is he going to reacted if you stay togther and if your baby sick .Is he going reacted the same way , telling you to get out . I be thinking of this as well .

Well i hope things work out for you between you and your parter so don't get me wrong , but i be thinking of he did to you over this . I wish you well and be thinking of you hun .

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

AZMom — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 08:45:12 -0700

You are not killing your baby! I worried throughout my pregnancy about my diet as it was definately not a good diet. I do not smoke so that was not a worry, it was easy for me to give up alcohol, I don't like sodas either, but sugars and chocolate... NO CHANCE!! I ate it all... you name it chocolate, cream cakes, deserts, biscuits, sweets and easter eggs as soon as they hit the shops ...and we are not talking small portions here.

I had very bad morning sickness for the first three months and could not hold any solids down.. except chocolate strangely enough I had a long journey to and from work and was out of the house for at least 12 hours a day commuting too and from work, so the last thing I felt like doing was cooking a meal when I got home. I tended to eat my main meal at lunch and then graze for the rest of the day.

From about 7 months I had high sugars in my urine and was tested every two weeks for gestational diabetes although I never tested positive, the sugars were always high. I don't know how many weeks pregnant you are, but you need your husband to support you and work with you on changing your diet as it is not easy, I could not do it. I think his reaction is slightly OTT but I think it is probably down to shock. Perhaps you could take him to your next appointment so he can hear all the facts for himself?

Despite the high sugars, my son was born healthy, my only concern is whether he will have a really sweet tooth like me, I may be hypocritical but I do not give him anything sweet except fruits and I want to keep it that way as long as possible.

Good luck and I hope the rest of the pregnancy goes smoothly.

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

cheleinkal — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 08:23:26 -0700

Sweetie, your Hubby is shocked and over reacting, he probably doesn't even know what gestational Diabeties MEANS to the baby, which if they've caught it now, you start eating right and take the insulin is nothing bad, it may be a bit bigger than otherwise, but thats not going to be hubbies problem...he's not the one squeezing a watermellon out of a hole the size of a pea. Stand up for yourself, he's behaving badly, this should be a hug, we'll get through this moment, not a your wrong and I'm right blam and shame moment. This is the person who will be raising your child with you???? How dare he tell you the pregnant one not to come home....I'm 'sorry darl but this man sounds like a first class jerk. If he doesn't apologise and start behaving like a loving caring and supportive husband I'd tell him to move out. After you have the baby you are going to need a supportive helpful thoughtful person, not a drag you down mentally abusing person. If I'm reading this all wrong, thats great, I hope he's a great guy and you'll live happily ever after, but thats not what his actions as you've described them are saying to me. tell him whats done is done, you are dealing with it, he can either be part of it, or not, his choice, but you plan to raise a healthy child with or without him and see what he says to that...bully's usually turn to water when confronted with any show of strength. I wish nothing but the best for you and you're baby will be fine. My girlfriend did the same thing with her first bub, and he was huge, but as healthy as a horse............shit happens, then you get on with it, he needs to do just that.

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

August88 — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 07:13:09 -0700

Hi I am probably going to say the same as the others here but just start eating healthier now and I had a friend that had diabetes while pregnant but she had a healthy baby. I understand your hubby is upset but I am sure you have not lost him over this. This is so hard to answer how to fix a relationship when I don't know the person concerned but I hope that it is possible to change the diet as being depressed won't help if you turn to food for comfort if you know what I mean so I hope hubby can be supportive to you when he calms down or this will not help. Don't be so hard on yourself. You need to get positive. Babies are born to mums with addictions worse then this but that is not saying that this is not serious but listen to your doctor and try to do the right thing. Good luck! Hope this has been of some help.

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

rockdeeva — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 06:50:55 -0700

listen babe....i have been craving sweet foods since day 1 of my pregnancy and my biggest craving is iced coffee. I did ask my doc whether this sweet fetish was ok and if i could act on it and he said he couldnt see a problem. (although some docs may have different opinions). All i want u 2 know is that my aunty got diabetes thru her second pregnancy and she hardly touched any of the foods u described if at all. So honey, dont beat yourself up about it, no matter what we do sometimes these things happen thru no fault of our own. As for hubby, i agree with one of the other comments made......boot his arse out....u are the pregnant one!!!! Stay golden

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

rockclimbr4400 — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 06:46:01 -0700

Hey, I ate like that and didn't have gestational diabetes. I am not sure that you can control if you get it or not. Just talk to him, explain your weird cravings, it won't kill your baby, just start doing better now.

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

Rejen — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 05:07:39 -0700

You poor thing. I suffer from Depression and Anxiety and when I was pregnant was in a really bad relationship. I got hassled because of morning sickness (every day and night) which just made me sick from stress too. You are smart enough to know what to do about the diet, and I'm sure your love for your child will help give you strength to eat low GI foods. Depression makes it very difficult to function properly and make good every day decisions and it is important if it is ongoing to get medical help for this. If you break your arm you go to the doctor to get it fixed and the same goes for ongoing feelings of depression. Your brain may not be producing enough seratonin or something and you must remember the changes that you are going through mentally and physically are taking a toll on your body and emotions. Everyone makes mistakes - there is help out there. Hubby needs to understand the situation. I'm sure he loves you and is just freaked out and feeling helpless. I would tell him to be the one to go if he needs space to 'digest everything'. There is no honour in kicking out your pregnant wife when she most needs your support. Talk things out with him and hopefully he will come around. It sounds like you are punishing yourself enough and don't need further condemnation from him. Good luck, your Dr. and Diabetes Australia should be able to help (check the website for yummy foods and support). They will have published info on Gestational diabetes it may be helpful for him to read. You are strong ! You are Woman! The sisterhood is with you in support. You will get through this and be a great Mum who is aware and responsible when it comes to your child's diet because of this difficult time in your life.

Don't give up!

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

princesskc88 — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 05:00:25 -0700

hey omg ur the pregnant 1 go home if he has a problem let him get out!!!!!! u cant let him stress you out, i asked my fiance if this is far like from a guys side he even said no way !!!

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Re: Feeling really, really depressed

Libby24 — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 04:31:16 -0700

I ate hamburgers with both my kids and all i had was a close blood level to the diabeties. we do crave things and i doubt that what you were eating has caused this, may have added to it but not a direct cause. your hubby has no right to treat you like this either.
i have to agree with the other guys here. you should be at home, and hubby needs to acept that these things happen.

hugs and take care.

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

crystalmoon — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 04:25:42 -0700

Hunni,you were not to know and your hubby will realize this eventually.He is just reacting out of fear......I had gestational diabetes with my last Bub and I actually lost weight throughout my pregnancy(in a healthy way) from the low GI diet I had to follow.....Perhaps Hubby needs to speak to your doctors....I might add you could let him know that the stress he is putting you through is no good for Bubby either.Good luck and keep us posted Hugs Crystal xx

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

jenaya04 — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 04:11:57 -0700

HI there

Im sure u r not the first person to indulge whilst pregnant, although from the sounds of it, u may have indulged a bit too much, oh well what is done is done! Now is the time to knuckle down and correct your mistakes. U know where u went wrong and will now do what u have to do. Enough said! Now, your husband...bugger staying the night at your friends. U r the pregnant one. If he has a problem then let him be the one to sleep elsewhere. Otherwise he can comprehend this while sleeping on the couch if he doesnt want to be anywhere near u! Go back to your home..

Re: Feeling really, really depressed

llmunchkin — Wed, 13 Jun 2007 04:07:42 -0700

Oh dear, you poor thing... Well they say that to solve a problem, you need to be aware you have a problem - so that is one thing out of the way. You can't turn back the clock, however you can make sure that you follow your Doctor's advice to the letter from now on - both for your own health and the baby's.

I think your husband's reaction is somewhat extreme, is he fully aware of what gestational diabetes is, and that ANYONE can develop it? Don't fret to much about what you have done - concentrate on all the good things that you will be doing from now on.

I'm glad you found us - thank you friend for supporting you too, and remember, you are a good person, and you will be a great mum - nobody is perfect.