Good luck to you

Seb

sorry to hear your current situation with being a step parent i know from personal experience it can be very difficult exspecially with a high needs child. read my blog...

well there are a few things to cover firstly do you and your partner have a structured daily routine which eliminates the added stress of hungry, tired, bored from your step sons issues. when children don't know whats coming next, day to day they can become very edgy and seem to live as if every nerve in their body is hot wired making it very hard for them to calm down or relax.which in turn ups the stress levels of everyone, parents included.

secondly do you have set family, household rules which if followed have a rewards system and equally have a diciplan if not followed. ie pocket money for chores, special treats for positive attitudes. a good guide for getting this sort of system started in your house would be " the good childs guide" by noel swanson you can find this online.

also what action plans does the boy's dr. have him on for his trauma treatment as this will need to be intergraded into your home routines and rules.

another good resource for step parents is www.steptalk.org .

i hope this has help if you want to discuss any points further please minti mail me i would be glad to help.

I hope today is a better one for your new family.