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Re: Cleaning their rooms - I need advice and help

cheekymonkey — Sun, 07 Oct 2007 21:08:07 -0700

This was along the lines of what I was going to say.

Everything has a tray that it lives in the organiser and you only get out one tray at a time. When you finish with those toys, they go back in the tray and into the organiser. Then you can get out something else to play with.

The occassional threat and follow thru of taking toys away really makes the gravity of the situation sink into thier minds. I've taken stuff away and forgotten all about it and so has Grub, so when Ive found it months later, it's like getting a new toy all over again!

Re: Cleaning their rooms - I need advice and help

Ngairi — Sat, 06 Oct 2007 06:59:25 -0700

Throwing things in the bin sometimes works in my house. But I make sure that I have a wheelie bin liner in the bin, so that when they have finished - and that means they have to throw it in the bin - I usually later on will take that bag and put it in the garage to sort through at a later stage, and anything that I don't care if it goes out, goes back in the bin.

On saying this, my 3 boys have very untidy rooms, and I just shut the door. They know if I can't get through to the bed to say goodnight - tough luck! I don't give them a kiss goodnight. So long as there is a pathway from the door to the bed, I will tuck them in.

Leisa

Re: Cleaning their rooms - I need advice and help

cazza — Sat, 06 Oct 2007 00:53:20 -0700

I was going to say what libby said as well lol.. and libby has some great options..

i would just like like to add other options as well and i know everyone is diffrent, but in my house we have a behaviour chart/clean up chart,,., so when you want them to do something they get a star... and be rewarded at the end...

some other options is pocket money, and every time they dont clean up. dock their money each week. and for mine we have school bank books, and it doesnt look nice putting 20 cents in the bank instead of $2......

Take care
love cazza

Re: Cleaning their rooms - I need advice and help

LibbyS — Fri, 05 Oct 2007 21:37:52 -0700

Sounds to me like it's time to get tough. If they have the ability to put things away, and it sounds like they do because you are expecting them to do things, then hold them accountable.

Like you said, you're buys cleaning and they're just doing nothing - problem. They seem to think that if they leave it long enough you'll clean up for them. Time to play hard.

Two options - firstly, is there anything fun thay you guys had planned coming up? An outing, or a play at a friend's house. Simple - they don't get to go until their bedrooms pass inspection. You don't need to nag or shout, just keep telling them to go back to their room and get cleaning if they want to do the fun activity. Don't back down, they'll test you to see if you give in. No tidy room, no going anywhere.

Second option, for when option 1 isn't working or isn't practical anymore. Tell them that their rooms need to be tidy by 3pm on Saturday (or whatever). At that time, tell them that you will be coming through and picking up everything on the floor or not in it's place. Tell them that if they can't take the responsibility to put it away, then they obviously have too many toys. Again, don't nag and shout, just tell the kids to keep tidying because you'll be in in 1 hour/ 45 min/ 30 mins etc to collect all their 'unwanted' toys. When you collect them, you can either put them in a box and put them away for a month or even three months (it needs to be a good amount of time) or - and this is what we did in our house - take the toys to the op shop. Only had to do it twice, now the threat is enough because they know we will follow through.

After these two op shop trips, if things get bad and everyone gets sent to his/ her room to tidy, I tell you what - the job gets done by the allotted time. The only thing you have to check before you make this threat is that any special toys like cuddlies, books from Grandma, expensive Christmas presents etc, thing you couldn't bear to part with are put away. Sometime I spend 15 or 10 mins with the kids first to get them started, then leave them to it. Make sure you get them to put anyway any of these toys first (or put thesein a cupboard for a few months).

These are pretty firm, but it sounds like the issue isn't tidyness, it's the kids not cleaning up when they're suppose to. Hope this give you some ideas,

Libby

Re: Cleaning their rooms - I need advice and help

Flicka — Fri, 05 Oct 2007 21:01:58 -0700

Do they have special boxes for things? We have boxes for different items so all her musical instruments are in one box, her train set in another, her cars in another, her kitchen play toys in another box. Also shelf space for things so she knows books go on this part of the shelf, puzzles in this part of the shelf, and so on. That way she can put things back just where they came from. She also knows to pack away one thing before taking out another. You'll have to fully supervise for a whle until they get used to putting things away before taking something else out which means you'll get behind for a while but it's well worth it. Pull them up every time and help them pack away the last thing they played with. It might take a while though. Like I said, it's worth it in the end.