also maybe she could just show her that if she wants to be picked up she can only have a sit down cuddle on mums knee, show her the scarring and explain it hurts, or ouch if that helps her understand better.

really at 18 mnths its a good age to be making it clear they are getting to old to be picked up to often.

I had 4 children by c-section 15 months apart followed by a hysterectomy when my youngest was 6 months. There wasnt any 'you can't' I had to do what I had to do. Having said that there are things that I did to make life easier....

I changed the bigger child on the floor it was easier to get up than lift to the change table.

I cuddled when sitting on the lounge and told the kids to be careful of mums sore tummy.

I guided them up onto a chair and got them onto the table to tie shoes or assist with dressing depending on age.

I sat on the loo and assisted them into  and out of the bath.

Tell your friend to take things carefully and slowly, accept help where she can and let her body be her guide.

Best wishes.

i would say that you can pick up the other child as long as they know to be careful and not wriggle or jump about...

i can't understand why she's been advised not to!

she just needs to remind the older child that they're bigger and have a very important job as a big brother/sister and as mummy's helper.

involve the older child in helping: passing nappies and stuff, use lots of praise and have lots of cuddles and time together when baby is sleeping.

the key is work to your ability and how you feel, show praise and lots of affection to the older child and keep telling them their new role as the big brother/sister is very very important...

lol xxxx. 

As for the wound reopening i find that a bit strange. Just bec she had  one c section doesnt mean she cant have a normal  birth. I agree witheveryone else.