I think DA (see, she is still haunting us!) has given a lot of helpful advice, but I am willing to share some of my tips if you minti mail me.  Sorry, not disgusing my (currently non existant) bedroom life in public view!

You have just had a baby. That puts a lot of pressure, stress, lack of sleep, changing hormones for you, and an increased sense of responsibility for both of you. He may be having trouble adjusting just as much as you are. Don't feel that because he's gone a little cold about the idea of getting married means he's less interested in you. It could be simply that there have been enough changes in your lives already that he would rather leave the extra stress of a wedding to plan until things have settled down.

As for feeling forgotten about by him, there's probably a lot on his mind as well that is occupying the space he'd normally have reserved for you. Guys don't like to talk about their emotions and problems. They get annoyed if they are pressured into doing so and often end up resorting to saying what they think you want to hear or go in the opposite direction and say something just to tick you off because you are ticking them off.

Probably be a good idea to just stop him in his tracks one day and bluntly and blatently tell him you aren't happy, tell him why, what is pissing you off, and what you want him to do about it. Don't go getting all emotional about it, stay factual, stay calm, keep it simple, and make sure to have a clearly defined "This is what I want from you" conclusion. If you don't have any idea what you want him to do about helping you fell better, how on earth is he supposed to figure out what will work? He's a guy after all!

If all else fails, take a little holiday to your mum's for a week or two, cheer yourself up, and see if fondness makes the heart grow stronger... but if you do that make it clear to him it's just to see your mum and not a step to breaking up or he might think you're taking that first step to leaving for good, might get suspicious of you seeing someone else, and might even go and do something stupid that he'll regret later while you're gone (if he thinks you're up to no good he could take it as a licence to do the same).

Good luck with it matey.

Dress up and make your self feel like just you, Im sure your mum and bub would love to go out for dinner.

Good luck, and its always the hardest in the first 6mths!!!!

Good luck xxx Nicky n Jade

Now as women, we expect our men to know  what we want, we think that they should know us well enough to know that we want a necklace for our birthday, or an engement ring for valentines. But you know they are such different creatures to us and unless you litterally take them to the jewellry shop, point to what you want and swipe the card your self you aint gunna get it! Well that may be a bit dramatic. But what i'm saying, is that you really need to TELL him. Straight forward, striaght to the point.

After you have told him, one of two things will happen. 1. Your relationship will improve greatly. You will get more help, more attention and hopefully more sex... OR 2. He will not change. That is when you have to make the decision if you want to stay with him or not.

I hope this helps and i hope that you can work it out. xox

Anyway,im in the same boat as you and i think talking will solve alot of problems,or maybe some time apart. He may then realise that he is doing wrong and needs to smarten up.I hope everything goes well and dont leave without talking it through cos he may not know what he's doing wrong.

Dannii xxo

not to be mean or anything but men can be jerks and dont get it unless drastic things are done.

good luck with it