Please do not be ashamed...we have all been there to some extent;but you have said, "I am in need of some help", and that is sometimes the hardest thing to say. The fact that you are aware that your feelings are not normal and that you want help is very positive. I don't know how much help you need but why don't you just start with a cuddle from your hubby and maybe a couple of hours away from the house to clear your head?

Sometimes when we are in the middle of all the madness, it's hard to see the wood for the trees...

Take care of yourself, and if you want to chat, minti mail me...I promise you won't always feel like this!! XXXXXXX

have you recently had a baby? its very common to get post natal depression. but even if your children are older you can still get depression.  are you depressed all the time? or are you finding the week leading up to your period is worse?

money problems can be a burden. if you have a mortgage and you are struggling you need to try to find ways of alleviating it. i have written some advice on mortgage. if you are renting you need to try (if your in australia) community support groups

they will help not only with advice about finances but even your health like depression

there are special womens groups. you dont have to go as a group. it is a one on one and in these groups they are usually working in the profession that usually put some time aside each week to do voluntary work

try to learn techniques to relax and block out problems for 15minutes  to recharge the batteries. i only recently wrote an article of advice last night on "energy and you"

but remember this technique is only meant to "recharge the batteries" if like it sounds that you are past that stage and into "depression " you need to seek professional help"

but above all you must tell your partner.

you cant do it alone

remember we are all hear to help

even if you just want to say hi

cheers annie

Cheers Julie

much love xoxoxoxoxoxoxox

Couldn't love my child saw looking after him as just a chore.

Hated myself and felt like I was of no use to anyone.

Unable to be positive about anything constant negative thoughts all the time.

Felt like the whole world was against me and felt I couldn't protect my family.

There is probably a lot more and I did keep a diary but I can't read it anymore because I really don't want to remember.   I am ok now so don't give up hope there is always an answer so please go and see your doctor as soon as you can and don't leave it to the last minute like I did.   If you ever want to chat please email me, take care love Maria xxxx

Keep a diary of your feelings and moods, it will help to map what is going on with you.  Your son waking that often could be just him wanting a feed that often, but is hard to know without knowing the age of your little man.

Remember, you are not alone in this, many mums go through it, and there is a lot of help and support out there for you.  Worrying about money isn't good either, maybe time to sit down and do budget.  Hard part is sticking to it.

I know exactly what you're going through. When my first child was born I spent the first 10 weeks hybernating in the house. I would not take him anywhere unless he had to go for his check ups and I would wait until my husband got home from work and go down the street to grab the mail or get milk and bread  on my own. I did not talk to anyone about how I was feeling and it near destroyed me. I felt ashamed, embarrassed, alone and I thought I was all alone. I finally spoke to the community nurse and she suggested to start attending the local mothers group. I was so scared to, but I got the courage up and went. From that day there was no stopping me. It help me 100% + , I realised that I was not alone and others were feeling exactly the same as I was and for all sorts of reasons to.

With my second child whom is only 6 weeks old , I started to get depressed. I had so much going on in my life and still have. For example: He was born 4 weeks early, my sister in law was having an affair with our builder, we had to get rid of the builder to support my brother in his time of need, the house is still incomplete and we're living with my mother at the moment and we have no idea when work will resume on the house, the very day I came home from hospital my beloved cat that I had the plessure of having for 9 years died, and the builder keeps harrassing us for his last payment. This has all happened within 2 weeks. Because I had depression with my first I was aware that I could probably go down that track again. So as soon as I started to feel I was going down hill I spoke up. I spoke to my husband, the community nurse, certain mothers at mothers group and I swear it is doing me the world of good. It is helping me to stay on top of things and just knowing that I am not alone feels great. As for not being able to handle your babies scream, I hear you. I went through that and so did my husband ( he actually moved into the spare bedroom for a couple of nights ) and we still have our moments but I think as time goes on you will learn to handle it. There were times and still is where I would loose my paience and same as you I wouldn't hurt him, but I couldn't be 100% sure so I spoke to appropriate people and if I find I need time out from the children I get my husband to help with them ( get them out of my hair for awhile ). So maybe if you can talk to people that you are comfortable with and your partner and get him to take the baby for awhile, you should find that you will start to feel better ( hopefully ) We are more tolerent of his screams and crying now. It will get better. That is what I keep saying and I believe it will. It is just like a waiting game. No one knows when it will get easier but you will find that one day you will wake up and you will think thank goodness.

I hope my rambling has helped .It has helped me just writing this down. Good luck and please go and talk to someone and get it out in the open and off your chest, and just remember it will get better. Just hang in there and you will find out for yourself.

this is a very strong thing and one day you can feel fine and the next in ruines.

if you want someone to talk who has been there i am still struggling with it. i have writen my story about my son alex as advice on here if you want to read that. feel free to minti mail me.

but you definately need to talk to someone about it.

Hugs Liz

Talk to your partner, he should understand and help you. Minti mail me if you want hun, i know what your going through,

Best fo luck, and see your doc xxxxx

lack of money is common and stressfull for most families but remember the best thing you can give bubs is your love. hug him lots !  and crying releases pressure so let it out!

maybe you should speak to your partner as maybe a shared promblem could become a lesser one

or life line in australia theyre listed in the phone book / google it here

if your in another country maybe another member can help here

whatever u do u need to talk to someone for the burden you are carrying is too great

rue