Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Terrible Tantrums" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Terrible Tantrums" Copyright 2008 Minti en-uk Re: Terrible Tantrums lillkatheryn Oh boy, the million dollar question!  he is right on track, much like my little girl, he is starting young.  It's just something that you are going to have to play around with to see what works best for you.  With my girl I use a combo of things.  First I count to 3, if she does not listen then ... Oh boy, the million dollar question!  he is right on track, much like my little girl, he is starting young.  It's just something that you are going to have to play around with to see what works best for you.  With my girl I use a combo of things.  First I count to 3, if she does not listen then a spanking and then I leave the room.  If she follows me then I tell her that I will not talk to her until she calms down and talks to me nice.  Though this is to tough when they are that young.  When she was like that I would tell her no, and if she did a tantrum, like you I just ignored, but I still told her the same, I would talk to her with she stopped the screaming.  Many times she has coughed, vomited and such.  Because they get so worked up over it.  But just keep consitant, with however you decide to handle it, and follow the same steps everytime, it won't take long for him to get the idea and he will change his actions.  And remember, the more you tell him to stop or give him any attention, the more he will do it.  So praise the positive more and try to ignore the bad, or distract so he see that the tantrums won't get what he wants...Good luck!

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#646323 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#646323 Thu, 06 Mar 2008 18:57:20 -0800 Re: Terrible Tantrums curiousnamow sounds like he may be over whelmed, or sick...not sure which one.   a little guy that age doesn't really know too much about manipulation through tantrums, however they do know when they are hungry or feeling an emotion that they are unable to express...this is the 'tantrum behavior' their frustration. Their attention span is quite small, so diverting their attention to ... sounds like he may be over whelmed, or sick...not sure which one.   a little guy that age doesn't really know too much about manipulation through tantrums, however they do know when they are hungry or feeling an emotion that they are unable to express...this is the 'tantrum behavior' their frustration.

Their attention span is quite small, so diverting their attention to something happy will no doubt bring some relief to you if you are in need of doing something important. As you speak, smile, and talk like you would to an older child, you'll find this method will work quite well as your baby gets older..."oh I love you..are you frustrated...I'll be there to help in a moment. 

My ds hated having diaper changes, he would squirm and wiggle, got me too a couple of times in the face and on my cloths :( singing a song, or doing the abc's is a great way to get through the 'chore' of clean bum by making it a bit more fun

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645965 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645965 Thu, 06 Mar 2008 06:10:11 -0800 Re: Terrible Tantrums Izzy as far as diaper changes, there is really no getting around the crying. But I suggest getting a new toy used only especially during diaper changes. This way it may hold yoru son's attention long enough for you to change his diaper - super fast! LOL as far as diaper changes, there is really no getting around the crying. But I suggest getting a new toy used only especially during diaper changes. This way it may hold yoru son's attention long enough for you to change his diaper - super fast! LOL

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645962 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645962 Thu, 06 Mar 2008 06:05:35 -0800 Re: Terrible Tantrums Izzy My son started tantrums at about 11 months. I remember it clearly. He used to push a car back and forth in the kitchen and when he bumped into something and couldn't push anymore, he got frustrated and cried. At the time, I always talked him through it (even if he didn't understand me). I told him that there was ... My son started tantrums at about 11 months. I remember it clearly. He used to push a car back and forth in the kitchen and when he bumped into something and couldn't push anymore, he got frustrated and cried. At the time, I always talked him through it (even if he didn't understand me). I told him that there was no need to cry and that all he needed to do was push the car in a different direction, and while saying this, I took away the obstacle. Talking through it calmly allowed me to show him that he could work through the same situation without getting too frustrated. Doing things this way really paved the way for us as he got older and the real tantrums began.

Also, I didn't always run to him whenever he got frustrated. I watched him to allow him a bit of time to figure things out for himself, and then I stepped in to help.

My suggestion is, to try and do the same thing. When your baby cries because something wasn't going his way, let him work it out first and fight the urge to run to him immediately. Step in only before the point of frustration. Approach him cheerfully to show him that this is normal and that you would help him get through it.

When you help him, try to show him what you're doing and if you can manipulate his hands to show him the movements, that's even better. Your pay off would be 18 months from now when instead of immediately getting frustrated because he couldn't do anything, he would try and work things out for himself before he calls for help.

Good luck!

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645961 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645961 Thu, 06 Mar 2008 06:03:47 -0800 Re: Terrible Tantrums cathbusymum My little one started doing this at  about the same age (shes 16 months now)and still is. I would recommend ignoring the tamtrum and just keeping to your routine and rules. If she wants something that she can't have then its to bad and she can cry all she likes. Nappy changing- it must be done, so I just ignore ... My little one started doing this at  about the same age (shes 16 months now)and still is. I would recommend ignoring the tamtrum and just keeping to your routine and rules. If she wants something that she can't have then its to bad and she can cry all she likes. Nappy changing- it must be done, so I just ignore the protests as well. Your bubba is getting a little bit older and might benifit from more challenging toys or new games etc. I found that a walk in the pram did wonders for calming bub (and me!) down when things got a bit stressed. Bubs can get very demanding from now on as they like to get into EVERYTHING they can touch because they are exploring the world and its ALL new and exciting. This stage calls for patience and you just have to remind yourself that the toddler years are gone quickly and the time will come when you wish they were this little again.

Good luck

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645902 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/645811/terrible-tantrums//#645902 Thu, 06 Mar 2008 04:13:46 -0800