Talking, showering together and massage are great for this.  Sex will come with time.  By doing these other things, you might find yourself getting into the mood as well.

Never let sex rule your life.  It shouldn't be what your relationship is built on.  I have to say, it seems to me like you are just in a down patch as just asking this question means you are still interested, so why not take things slow and steady and see where it leaves you.  Remember, a kiss and a soft touch are very stimulating for you and your partner.

After I had my son i tore really badly having him and my wound became a cyst it was so painful to walk and sit let alone have sex. also u are in mum mode and it is hard to change from mum mode to wife  mode.

personally i would talk to my partner about it and try new things. there is a sex group here called spice up your life. request to be a member and see what others have sugested in there. I will be posting a few things in there as it is a private group and i feel that somethings should not be for everyone to see and it might get reported before you get to read it.

good luck

Liz

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xoxo