Minti - Recent Comments on Question "why do parents have to have a fave child" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "why do parents have to have a fave child" Copyright 2008 Minti en-uk Re: why do parents have to have a fave child mrmia Interesting, I never looked at it that way. I'm an only child so I don't know the favoritism but my mom always complains of it with her brothers. Now that I'm pregnant with number 2, I hope I don't play any favoritism. But I'm glad you pointed out the different needs  for each child so that I can be aware ... Interesting, I never looked at it that way. I'm an only child so I don't know the favoritism but my mom always complains of it with her brothers. Now that I'm pregnant with number 2, I hope I don't play any favoritism. But I'm glad you pointed out the different needs  for each child so that I can be aware of how I treat my kids.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710328 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710328 Wed, 14 May 2008 12:34:57 -0700 Re: why do parents have to have a fave child MrsSanders I alway's thought thay my Mum favoured our Brother most, my Sister next and moi if she had time. It was not till I was older and thankfully mentioned it to her that she explained, it was not favouritism but need. My Brother needed more attention, my Sister needed more encouragement and I was way too independant and would not have tollerated ... I alway's thought thay my Mum favoured our Brother most, my Sister next and moi if she had time. It was not till I was older and thankfully mentioned it to her that she explained, it was not favouritism but need. My Brother needed more attention, my Sister needed more encouragement and I was way too independant and would not have tollerated that level of communication. Such a different spin for her compared to me.

As an older adult I understood my Mum very well and found that bond I thought was not there, it was, I just did not need it before. Perhaps it would be best to ask your Mum to clarify her thoughts and feelings, maybe like me you are very independant and she does not feel needed herself as a Mum. Sometimes it is worth asking even if you dont get the answer you would like.

Take care of you, Luv Winnie.xx

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710111 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710111 Wed, 14 May 2008 06:15:46 -0700 Re: why do parents have to have a fave child winja i dont think its really a favourite thing just that sometimes u have more in common with one of your children than the others. in my family im sorta the favourite but i think thats only because my mum can relate to me a bit better than my other siblings, we have similar interests and just seem to have less fights ... i dont think its really a favourite thing just that sometimes u have more in common with one of your children than the others.

in my family im sorta the favourite but i think thats only because my mum can relate to me a bit better than my other siblings, we have similar interests and just seem to have less fights or maybe its that we understand why we snap sometimes at each other?

your comment doesnt really sound liek that though? it just sounds like your mum was sayin that she wouldve liked to have everyone with her which is fair enough i think we would all feel that way...

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710102 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710102 Wed, 14 May 2008 05:47:46 -0700 Re: why do parents have to have a fave child kathryn-solaris my dad has a saying for this type of situation.... "harden up, drink concreet!" says it all the time. i am 100 percent sure what your mum said was not ment malliciously. take it with a pinch of salt and move on. my dad has a saying for this type of situation.... "harden up, drink concreet!" says it all the time. i am 100 percent sure what your mum said was not ment malliciously. take it with a pinch of salt and move on.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710073 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#710073 Wed, 14 May 2008 04:59:19 -0700 Re: why do parents have to have a fave child 2BeautifulGirls I am the youngest of two, I have an older brother and my parents have made it very clear that there is no favourites with them.  Whatever they do for me, they do for my brother.  I have two girls and I certainly don't show any favouritism with them.  Parents should love their kids equally. Maybe your mother meant that she ... I am the youngest of two, I have an older brother and my parents have made it very clear that there is no favourites with them.  Whatever they do for me, they do for my brother.  I have two girls and I certainly don't show any favouritism with them.  Parents should love their kids equally.

Maybe your mother meant that she would have liked to have your brother there as well as you and your son.  Have you spoken to her about how you feel?  It's probably something that will just fester if you don't discuss it with her.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#709979 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#709979 Wed, 14 May 2008 02:07:57 -0700 Re: why do parents have to have a fave child samantha maybie what your mum was trying to say, was that it would have been even better if she had all her kids with her on mothers day. i don't think that cause your mum was talking bout how it would have been nicer to have your bro there aswell, means that he is her favourite. though it would have been a little ... maybie what your mum was trying to say, was that it would have been even better if she had all her kids with her on mothers day. i don't think that cause your mum was talking bout how it would have been nicer to have your bro there aswell, means that he is her favourite. though it would have been a little anoying to have heard your mum talk about that the whole time. if your mum said it once that would have been fine, but i can see that it would be anoying that she didn't just enjoy the ones she did have with her for the day. anywa don't stress, i'm sure your mum isn't playing favourites, we can all a feel a bit that way at times.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#709907 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/709899/why-do-parents-have-to-have-a-fave-child//#709907 Tue, 13 May 2008 23:35:31 -0700 Re: why do parents have to have a fave child Arna I'm the oldest of 3 children, and I have to say, my younger sister seems to be the one my parents are really pandering.  Me and my youngest sister have had to put up with constant nagging about school and been told that what we want it in life is too much to ask for or too risky. I pushed through ... I'm the oldest of 3 children, and I have to say, my younger sister seems to be the one my parents are really pandering.  Me and my youngest sister have had to put up with constant nagging about school and been told that what we want it in life is too much to ask for or too risky.

I pushed through it, but think my youngest sister is really struggling.  Now, I don't go running to my Mum if I have a problem because i know that all I'm going to get is 'What did YOU do to cause it?'  Yeah, ta mum.

If your parents are going to be like that, then stuff them.  I know they are your parents, but you have your life to live and your family to look after.  Enjoy the time you spend with your own family and never mind the olds.  I reckon they think you have your life well ordered and they feel as though you don't need the encouragement and support like your older brother, and let's face it, the male species needs more supervision for longer than us ladies!

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