Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Having your second baby" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Having your second baby" Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk Re: Having your second baby ashley6400 My husband and I have a twenty month old, and are 3 months pregnant for number 2. I think its perfectly normal to wonder how to juggle everything. I too am and only child and want to make sure that each child has the same experiences. My hubby comes from a family of 4 and thinks only children have it ... My husband and I have a twenty month old, and are 3 months pregnant for number 2. I think its perfectly normal to wonder how to juggle everything. I too am and only child and want to make sure that each child has the same experiences. My hubby comes from a family of 4 and thinks only children have it made. But we still feel that our daughter will benefit from having a sibling and our family with naturally adjust. I guess you go day to day, sleep less and make time special time for each when you can. 

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#913380 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#913380 Fri, 19 Dec 2008 06:00:49 -0800 Re: Having your second baby Ju0101 I had our second 4 months ago and you do find time to be with both together and individually, it just happens!  Admittedly other things do get left, I find myself tidying in the evening when they are asleep but it's better that way.  Best of luck! Ju xx I had our second 4 months ago and you do find time to be with both together and individually, it just happens!  Admittedly other things do get left, I find myself tidying in the evening when they are asleep but it's better that way.  Best of luck!

Ju xx

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#913256 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#913256 Fri, 19 Dec 2008 02:12:22 -0800 Re: Having your second baby shellk Hi completely understand your concerns.  I have five children my oldest is 6, then 5, 4, 2, and 5 months sometimes it can be difficult to find one on one time but I ve found that involving them all when we welcomed a new addition was the best way to overcome feelings of jealously and my husband and I take ... Hi completely understand your concerns.  I have five children my oldest is 6, then 5, 4, 2, and 5 months sometimes it can be difficult to find one on one time but I ve found that involving them all when we welcomed a new addition was the best way to overcome feelings of jealously and my husband and I take turns doing special things with each child regularly but as difficult as it sometimes gets due to fact that you only have 24hrs in  day :) we have managed to always have time for our little family together and individually, your already half way there because you are conscious of it before baby arrives.  I m sure you ll be fine and so will your little boy.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#913018 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#913018 Thu, 18 Dec 2008 17:42:28 -0800 Re: Having your second baby masonfamily  Hi Kirstie, I have 4 babies, 1st 2 are 18months apart (girl/boy) then a 3 yr gap between the 2 bubs but they are 11months, 3 weeks and 5 days apart! Same again(girl/boy). I do find myself stretched abit, am still breastfeeding the 2 bubs but I wouldnt have it any other way. My kids all get on so well, ...  Hi Kirstie, I have 4 babies, 1st 2 are 18months apart (girl/boy) then a 3 yr gap between the 2 bubs but they are 11months, 3 weeks and 5 days apart! Same again(girl/boy). I do find myself stretched abit, am still breastfeeding the 2 bubs but I wouldnt have it any other way. My kids all get on so well, there are fights but not big ones, just kids being kids, they always look out for eachother and are loving caring kids. I have a sis and a bro and my mum looked after her brothers 2 children so there are 5 of us and we are close as well.

You will find time between your babies, being a mum and multi tasking goes hand in hand. Good luck and hope all goes well.

Peace, Hannah

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#912606 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#912606 Thu, 18 Dec 2008 02:34:23 -0800 Re: Having your second baby josierm my first 2 are 1/2 an hour apart, so it doesn't get much closer!! it sounds like you have thought through the potential issues with having children closse together, and i am sure you will be an aware and attentive mother to 2 children, no matter how close they are. there are increased risks with having a baby as an older mother ... my first 2 are 1/2 an hour apart, so it doesn't get much closer!!

it sounds like you have thought through the potential issues with having children closse together, and i am sure you will be an aware and attentive mother to 2 children, no matter how close they are.

there are increased risks with having a baby as an older mother (past the age of 35) such as higher chance of birth complications, higher rates of c sec, increased chance of genetic defects such as downs syndrome, increased infertility issues and erratic or multiple egg release.  With this in mind, it may be better to try sooner rather than later anyway.  There are many benefits to having children close together, and i am sure you will find out for yourself.

good luck

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#912449 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#912449 Wed, 17 Dec 2008 21:05:02 -0800 Re: Having your second baby Rukia first off, just cause your mum went through something doesnt mean u will. u have a 50/50 chance at that, but in saying this I was the same age as my mum when I had to have a hysterectomy. genes plays the game there. second. My kids are 23 months apart and I wouldnt have it any other way. My SIL ... first off, just cause your mum went through something doesnt mean u will. u have a 50/50 chance at that, but in saying this I was the same age as my mum when I had to have a hysterectomy. genes plays the game there.

second. My kids are 23 months apart and I wouldnt have it any other way. My SIL has her 2 kids 18 months apart and she loves it. (they are thinking of more too.)

it all depends on how you treat your kids and how u are at coping after the birth, possible PND and etc...... all the side factors are the biggest ones. I was pretty good after the birth of my daughter so have 2 under 2 was good until my daughter turned  months and I was told I couldnt breastfeed her, PND set in and i slopped down from there. Now they are almost 7 &5 and at school. they are really close together and sleep in the same room.

personally i think having kids close together is great.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#911894 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#911894 Wed, 17 Dec 2008 05:14:12 -0800 Re: Having your second baby Domestic-warrior Time is precious, but if you want to have a second child don't dwell on it just do it.  You will work it out.  No matter what the age difference the family dynamics change for better and for worse. Good luck. Time is precious, but if you want to have a second child don't dwell on it just do it.  You will work it out.  No matter what the age difference the family dynamics change for better and for worse.

Good luck.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#911743 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#911743 Wed, 17 Dec 2008 02:37:55 -0800 Re: Having your second baby MrsSanders I have two girls four yrs apart and the same dilema applies. Where there is more than one child that individual one to one has its restrictions, but its love and security that really means most at the end of the day,LOL. My sister and I are one year six weeks apart in age and cat fights were inevitable as teens ... I have two girls four yrs apart and the same dilema applies. Where there is more than one child that individual one to one has its restrictions, but its love and security that really means most at the end of the day,LOL.

My sister and I are one year six weeks apart in age and cat fights were inevitable as teens as we are both strong characters,LOL  and were seeking our own individuality. However we were very close then and even closer now. Our lovely Mum treasured us for our differences and loved us equally, something she reinforced for us all the time and reiterated strongly the day before she died.

I honestly think it was my Brother who perhaps missed out on the one to one with Mum most, but he had a very strong bond with her, he was three yrs younger than I. He does'nt feel like he missed out though and we all have a strong bond, and that came from the love and security provided by our parents.

Best wishes, Luv Winnie.xxxx

 

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#911671 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/911629/having-your-second-baby//#911671 Wed, 17 Dec 2008 01:33:57 -0800 Re: Having your second baby rcp-432 i have 4 children 4, 3, 2, and 4 months and i dont feel split between them i actually think its a good thing they are close together because when they go to school they will basically be in a year apart from each other and watch out for the others i myself have 4 sibling and we are a year apart  ... i have 4 children

4, 3, 2, and 4 months and i dont feel split between them i actually think its a good thing they are close together because when they go to school they will basically be in a year apart from each other and watch out for the others

i myself have 4 sibling and we are a year apart  and i loved it

as long as you have love it will be enough for both of them trust me ...........  enjoy

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