Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Second child guilt" http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt/ Minti - Recent Comments on Question "Second child guilt" Copyright 2009 Minti en-uk Re: Second child guilt MEL192  It took me ages to bond with my second son!  He is now 16 months and a happy little man and I love him completely. When you have a second child you just need to feed change and give some hugs - they will turn out fine.  You have known your daughter for so much longer - so it is normal ...  It took me ages to bond with my second son!  He is now 16 months and a happy little man and I love him completely.

When you have a second child you just need to feed change and give some hugs - they will turn out fine.  You have known your daughter for so much longer - so it is normal to feel like you have a stronger bond with her.  

DON'T feel guilty.  Just set aside 10 minutes in the day when you can talk to your new baby. He will grow up with the benefit of having an older sister and that will make up for any time you spend with her now.  

Also spending more time with the big one helps reduce sibling rivalry.  

You are also a much less anxious mum when you have the second baby, so he is also benefitting from all the knowledge and skills you have gained from raising your daughter.

Take lots of photos of your little one (especially when the 2 of them are together).  Because he will be a big boy sooner than you think.

Don't feel guilty, just enjoy this time with both of them so small.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974216 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974216 Sun, 08 Mar 2009 21:18:20 -0700 Re: Second child guilt blue-raven Don't worry your a great mum, at that age the tend to sleep more. It won't be long and he'll be laughing and exploring your face and giving you "kisses". Talk to your health professional about it, you may be suffering from a little post partum depression. Don't forget YOU ARE A GREAT MOTHER! Don't worry your a great mum, at that age the tend to sleep more. It won't be long and he'll be laughing and exploring your face and giving you "kisses". Talk to your health professional about it, you may be suffering from a little post partum depression. Don't forget YOU ARE A GREAT MOTHER!

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974180 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974180 Sun, 08 Mar 2009 19:18:44 -0700 Re: Second child guilt Arna Of course he is boring.  He can't play and interact like your daughter can, but he will in time.  In the next few weeks, he will become a little more aware of his surroundings, and really start to interact with you more, as well as his big sister. One way you could bond better with him, is to do this with ... Of course he is boring.  He can't play and interact like your daughter can, but he will in time.  In the next few weeks, he will become a little more aware of his surroundings, and really start to interact with you more, as well as his big sister.

One way you could bond better with him, is to do this with your daughter.  When you are feeding him, have your daughter beside you so your son can learn what communication is better.  They will both enjoy it.

Not everyone can be a 'baby' person, so don't feel bad about it.  I was the same with my second baby, and I still feel as though I'm not as close to her as I should be, but I still love her and would do anything for her.

You won't have to wait 2 years before he is engaging.  Once he starts reaching his mile stones, you will find him fascinating.  You will be wondering what you were worried about as you encourage him to roll, sit up and crawl.  You will be wishing he was still a baby as he learns to stand up, walk and climb furniture.

If you feel there is more going on here than just not bonding with him, then see your local health nurse or dr, and ask them for advice.  They might be able to send you to a group that teaches you how to interact and enjoy your baby.

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974150 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974150 Sun, 08 Mar 2009 18:24:50 -0700 Re: Second child guilt proudmumof2 you sound like you are a loving mother but your could be experiencing post natal depression. often the first sign of it are excess tiredness, sensitivity and lack of bond with your baby. i had a pretty severe case when my daughter was born and i didn't have that bond with her. i could be wrong its just a suggestion, ... you sound like you are a loving mother but your could be experiencing post natal depression. often the first sign of it are excess tiredness, sensitivity and lack of bond with your baby. i had a pretty severe case when my daughter was born and i didn't have that bond with her. i could be wrong its just a suggestion, but always remeber he'll be interacting more with you very soon and that your a great mum and whatever your feeling is ok and not to feel bad about it. sorry i couldn't be anymore help. good luck :o)

]]> http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974128 http://www.minti.com/questions-and-answers/discussion/974100/second-child-guilt//#974128 Sun, 08 Mar 2009 17:57:35 -0700